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Best and worst so far.
from being homeless in paradise for six weeks on the beach to being sectioned to a mental hospital. lost someone powerful to me. gained my family back. found some new passions and some old ones were prised from my grasp. ate through too many jobs. battled addiction. experienced pleasure and pain I hadn't imagined possible. was robbed of all my possessions. wrote off my car. spent a few nights behind bars. danced naked in the rain. smiled and laughed till i was hoarse.
still truckin.
Some powerful stuff here. Humbling.
[url= http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-20810452 ]http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-20810452[/url]
(I was just about to post when I read mechmonkey's post - what I'm going to say now seems trite and inconsequential)
Pretty good actually for me.
I rode more than I've ever ridden before.
I've struggled with work although it's been interesting. The last month or so has been the most intense, frustrating and challenging period of my working life by far. It seems to have gone OK though.
Apart from that, it's just been a bit of a slog. Teenage son has been the biggest pain this year I reckon.
Very tough year. But dwelling on positives:
I'm quite fit and healthy
I've had time to ride bikes a lot
I managed to keep doing my work at an acceptable standard and so kept my job
Friends have been amazing. I love them all
Next year could be game changer
10 marrige ended.Never looked more forward to a new year. 😉
Very tough year. I'll be glad to see the back of it.
Positives:
My tech skills got a bit better. I managed some dreaded steps last Sunday that I had been scared stiff of!
Got a road bike (OK, OK, I know, don't shout!) 😀
Got some stuff on the house done.
Started night riding with some great people.
Negatives:
Partner suffering severe anxiety depression, makes me feel constantly on edge and haven't focussed on much. 😕
I'm going to make sure that 2013 is a much better year. More biking of all sorts and more focus on me. 😀
Horrible horrible horrible year.
Rollercoaster.
I'm doing exactly the same as I was this time last year.
Some pretty candid words here.
I've had a humbling year, I think these words sum it up:
Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, "I will try again tomorrow."
A number of significant things have not gone to plan, life has been testing but one way or another other options have always appeared despite how bleak things have looked. It's a relative bleakness, I'm lucky for what I have and the freedom to find options. Next year looks to be more about new chapters than the re-writing of old ones.
And learning to manual 😡 One day... one day.
It's been a tale of two cities.
I may have grown up a bit.
Made some changes for my family, friends and wife who i now realise are all i really have and care about. Everything else can pretty much GTF.
But, what's passed has passed. Onwards!
Been a bit up and down this year .
Work been carzy busy and being self employed that's got to be a good thing .
New extension and kitchen being built at home so that's all good .
Unfortunaetly relationships have not been so good , split up with my gf about three months ago , my decision , just wasn't right . Then out of the blue someone else came in to my life but now she doesn't know what she wants and has really ****ed with my head .
Fighting with depresion again at the minute but determined to get through it without medication this time .
Looking forward to Christmas day with my parents then going to visit my sister in Wales for a few days , hoping getting away will help .
KINGTUT - Member
My wife left me and took my daughter, i lost my dream house, I was close to suicide for a while.Not a good year.
Mike - if you ever want a (slow, I'm seriously unfit at the mo) ride and a chat let me know. I'm a good listener.
Life is a rollercoaster, scream on the ride and it won't make a difference and even if you puke, he won't let you off, we all head to death.
On that cheerful note I had mostly a fab year. I had a crap start when I struggled to get a new contract which made it tough financially until the middle of the year but then in Sept I married the most beautiful girl on the planet, stunning and beautiful on the inside too. Made up.
I need to set my goals for next year ... I've achieved them last two years but am not sure what to aim for in 2013. Hmmm makes me think. What next. Never dwell on the past, always look forward, never back.
My wife left me and took my daughter, i lost my dream house, I was close to suicide for a while.Not a good year.
I've always liked the cut of your jib, KT. So this saddens me. Reach out to those who have offered help.
Failing that, come to Peterborough and I'll buy you a pint. It's ace. So flat you can go for a 30 mile ride and still see your house 8)
Some good stuff, some bad stuff, could have been better, could have been worse (especially hearing what some people have been through).
Meh covers it very nicely I think.
Bit hit and miss. Moved into a flat with ex gf we split 6 months after moving in. My grans dementia has worsened and its now affecting her nutrition so I highly doubt we'll have her much longer 🙁
A close friendship with a ex work colleague has developed into a great relationship.
Started a brand new job on a Orthopaedic Trauma ward.
Now off work for a week due to badly scalding my whole hand with boiling water at work.
A bit of a rollercoaster with more downs than ups.
Ups:
Knee problems disappeared - enjoyed a great ski holiday and loads more cycling than the previous year.
Overall fitness improved.
Alcohol consumption reduced.
Doing loads of voluntary work - trustee of 2 charities and provide training to young people in two other charities, which is both enjoyable and satisfying.
Downs:
Work as a self-employed management consultant in the charity sector and public sector has been dire due to government / local government budget cuts.
Money worries as a result of above.
Elderly mother, who lives over 200 miles away, is getting increasingly fragile, can't hear very well any more, and has dementia - I'm an only child so am quite stressed by the decline and trying to be supportive (frankly I haven't a clue as to what to do).
Love life not happened in the way that I hoped - similar situation to the Wellwellwell thread on here recently.
Last year was spent living life as a 20 yr old despite being 40. This year was spent dealing with the consequences. I was a massive **** but have realised what's important, so - things aren't perfect, but I know how lucky I am and what really matters to me. Really looking forward to this Christmas with my fantastic family and making next year perfect!
reading some of the above posts helps put a perspective on things....
all-in-all i've had a good year. it's been quite hectic with a house move and lots of work, but good....
i didn't get the GF pregnant.
didn't get to ride as much as i had hoped due to work. i only guided one tour this year as other (more lucrative) work came calling. however, i still managed to get down south at least once a fortnight once the snow had melted. i managed a couple of weekend-away trips by myself which was nice. and the highlight of my biking year being the two two-week longs biking holidays with the GF (Leogang-Saalbach and Vinschgau) in spring and autumn.
two low points on the biking front: i discovered a crack in the head tube/downtube on my frame, but Mike@dialled was brilliant and sorted me a new frame within a week (not bad considering i'm in Germany); the other was that our basement got done over and the GF's Boardman was taken. on a positive note they left my bike, even pushing it aside to get hers... ❓
i got run over by some crazy woman, destroying my rear wheel a week before we were due to go to Leogang. long story short, i gave her an ultimatum and ended up taking 500€ from her. i now have a super-duper set of Mavic Deemax.... what is it they say about every cloud?
work has been coming in pretty solid for most of the year and i made a few new contacts. although there were a few quiet patches, but that meant i could piss off down south for a few days with the bike or get some work done on the flat.
we finally found a new flat (Munich is a nightmare when it comes to finding a place to live) and a really nice (affordable!) one at that. "Altbau", lots of character, in the "right" area of town (south side) and about 1/4 mile to the river and the Isar-trails.
as said above, the basement got done over. we had only been here two nights and when i went downstairs on the thrid day i saw that the door had been wrenched open. was (still am!) really gutted. kind of took the shine off the new place a little. fun way to meet the neighbours, mind... "hi, we're new and our bike has just been pinched"... said whilst trying to see into their hallway for evidence.
unfortunately i only made it over to the UK once this year, much to mum's disappointment. i'll have to rectify that next year.
my sister has finally found herself a man who can use a knife and fork with grace and communicate using sentences consisting of five words or more (Essex... the pickings are slim).
i am developing a bit of a belly which is a worry, but have plans to build a climbing wall (not a climbing climbing wall, but a climbing wall like they used to have in the school halls) which should in theory help combat that. drinking less would also help, i guess.
so yeah, a good year.
i'm going to try and take a little more time off in 2013. i want to have more "me-time", get some big private jobs done and get over and see my folks and lil'sis.
Pretty darn good year in the Bouy household.
Started he year with a fresh outlook on the work front and despite the extensive travelling its Been both rewarding and challenging. With that came the decrease in riding which has been the worst aspect of the year by far, so too cutting down on windsurfing/kiting/sailing that I'd always taken for granted would be there. However being away from my sailing club taught me good mates are indeed Good Mates and absence makes the friendship stronger.
Riding on my own more this year as fitting group rides in didn't fit in with work/family etc. which in itself has brought a new aspect to riding, taking more of the environment in, giving my head some space to think about fek all, instead of endless "races" trying to beat my riding mates I've taken the opportunity to kick back and just ride. Roadie riding has been almost non exsitant except early in the year when it was just fabulous.
MrsBouy has been able to devote a vast majority of her time sculpting and I'm thankfull that she's had the opportunity to develop a natural talent that for many a year has been suppressed.
So, I'm happy to give this year a score of 8/10 where the 2 deducted are purely because of the working/travelling balance thingy has caused muchos angstos.
Worst year ever. Total hip replacement due to septic arthritis saw no racing at all this year. So four years hard graft to get fit went wasted and am now back to square one. Wife away in Paris most of the time and (surprisingly) missing her. Work is pressure I don't need so I'm not caring atm so it's not satisfying.
2013 will be better...
I'll give my year 8 out of 10.
No major life events (death etc), had an extension built with not too many issues, got a Cotic Solaris and a dropper post 😀
My job involves meeting families who have 24 hour ventilated children and young folk with spinal injuries so always get some prospective on how hard things can be.
I'd give this year 7/10.
My toddler daughter continues to delight me every single day. My wife is great, good work ethic unlike several exs. Been out cycling a shit load, 3 trips to the lakes, up n down skiddaw & helvellyn, Borrowdale bash X2, cycled solo to Cardiff from Stafford plus up Cannock a load too. It's all good.
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, "I will try again tomorrow."" - that's an ace quote.
Some sad tales on here. I'm not sure I want to start judging years. Family is healthy and so am I. Kids aren't setting fire to cars or anything. Money comes in and gets spent on all sorts of tat but it makes us happy. Riding bikes with my friends continues to be thing that defines the difference between 'ok' and 'bloody great'
Stressful year this one. Wife has been on the list of potential NHS redundancies all year. Just last week got slotted in to a new post with greater security so we can actually enjoy Christmas.
As a treat I've got us a couple of kayaks so next year we will be adding that to our things to do so I intend to make 2013 a year for doing fun stuff and make up for this one.
We lost our (last) gran, & both our parents to the big C, so not the best of years. On the plus side I have a fantasic partner who supported me through out our issues, got back into work, have good health & have a new bike on order. 2012 will be engraved in a our memory, roll on 2013 it really can't be any worse
Best year of my life so far.have't stopped all year and finally figured out the direction I wana take my life.only downer is my dog died after 14 years but she went peacefully.
Despite the weather, I've battled through it and remain alive and well.
Fitness has taken a plummet due to a year with only 5 rides(all in the last month), though it's still at a level good enough to cope in the trails and enjoy it.
I've covered hundreds of miles on foot, had many weeks away enjoying nature, he best being on Orkney.
I've learnt new skills, and gained great new friends.
It's certainly been a year of PMA, which I guess amounts to it feeling like its been an amazing one.
Most of all I have me heath and I like to think, my sanity.
crap- bring on the reaper
Massive lows - me dear old Mum died, suddenly, in May, which hit me a lot harder than I imagined it would.
Middling lows - Work, having to do "more" with "less".......well, "something" with "virtually nothing" - NHS woes.
Massive highs - going to see my eldest in the Kalahri and then holidaying with all the "kids" in Botswana - stunning
The middle child being head-hunted to a really good management job.
The eldest getting the offer of a funded PhD.
Funny old year. 😐
Up and down.
Met some great new friends, and my circle of friends continue to be amazng. Getting on better with mum and dad than I have done in ages, running is still cool, and have been on some lovey rides with my dad ( just the two of us, it's been lush time)
Bought a leccy guitar finally, LOL and I'll give it 7/10 so far, really not sure.
Love life has been.... Eventful 🙂 finally made a decision about a long term relationship that sort of had some weird consequences, cut a long story short and some disastrous dates, were sort of back together ( I think I'm ruined for anyone else, and she's the one person who could ruin my life at the same time!! ) we'll see
Graduate next year!! ****ing Hell!! I'll have to find a job. Scary! =)
Probably one of the worst years of my life. Less riding than I've done in the past 15-20 years, mainly because I just had to see my son on those days when I would normally have been out riding. He was the only thing that kept me going.
Started off meh, got really awesome over summer, then was crap again recently until the past few weeks where its just got awesome again, happy right now 🙂
A very stressful year here..
We opened new premises with our busiest year yet for our small family business.. absolutely ridiculous hours and very costly..
A new baby too, who up until the last couple of months has been extremely challenging to deal with..
Frustratingly little riding, time and a persistent and painful injury have conspired against me..
Still we've stayed (mostly) positive and are now through the worst of it.. we will have more time in 2013.. We've all got our health, our devastating good looks and cheerful outlook so it's going to be onwards and upwards next year
😀
Summed up as, damm wet and fiscally tough.
Work wise I think it was better than last year, still pretty tough but still here! I wish it was not the case but I reckon next year might be the toughest yet - I hope I am proved wrong. This recession has accelerated any change and there a bit too much of it. Seems to me there is a major contrast now between those organisations that have and those that don't. Our little one is a barely has...
Riding wise, worse year ever, injuries, desperately working more (did not seem to make much difference), dogs too old to come out with the bikes (but still need a couple of hours out), and way too much rain.
Family wise kids are now late teenagers. Everyone is healthy. Daughter still at home, not sure what to do. Working with James on his 60s Beetle has been fun and riding motorbikes with him has been great. Wife and I are trying to grow older gracefully. Looking forwards to making the most of next year.
Merry Crimbo every one and here's wishing you the very best new year!
On the plus side:
Moved house and my commute now takes 25 minutes as opposed to the 90 minute average previously.
Got promoted
Son started school and settled into Harrogate amazingly fast.
Daughter has come out of her shell and is a really lively preschooler now.
Looks like I may end the year thinner than I started it.
Now live 10 minutes away from lifelong friends
On the down side
Grandmother died and it's knocked my Mum for 6
Continuing unresolved marital issues (i.e. not had any jiggyjiggy for 2 years and she's not interested)
I'm skint
Which is piffling compared to that which others contend with.
Not much to seriously grumble about I guess, although Ive no bike at the moment and for the foreseeable thanks to some thieving scum.
Left my job for some strange reason and now travel 3 times the distance to a place full of w....ers and a boss Im likely to lump next year. Only real issue is the same as the last 10 years but getting gradually worse....[u]NO MONEY AND HUGE DEBT[/u] and I cant see that changing any time soon.
Best year ever here.
Cancer has stayed in remission, even came off medication for the year.
Fitter than ever before. Sold our business and are now voluntarily retired/unemployed, so went off to do 3 months touring France.
I know I should feel guilty with the massive problems that some here are going through, but we went through some very dark days to get here, and you have to grab the light when you can.
I don't post much on here but I love you guys, hope 2013 brings you all that you want.
All the best Pete
Great year and next year looks to be even better!, work life balence is best its been, kids are doing well, money security better than its been in a looong time and the mrs is great. Everything has kind of fallen in to place so I'm a happy fella!
Finally got together with the girl who caught my eye some 36 years ago, currently making me a very happy dicky 🙂
Mixed year. Was pretty good to start with, then got a bit topsy turvy. Mate died in a car crash in June, spent 3 fantastic weeks in South Devon with the family, then went to the Alps with my closest to riding mates for a week. My gran died whilst I was out there, only found out when I got back though. My dad's best mate and a close family friend died whilst fell running in October at the age of 42, which shook us all up a bit. I've not been for a proper ride since the Alps, for several reasons. Been very busy since then due to selling both grandparents houses, that has calmed down now though. Hoping for a better 2013 for several reasons:
I finish 6th format in June and have a 12 week summer holiday, during which I'll be in Salcombe, and hopefully somewhere hot+sunny, this weather's got me down a bit.
I'll hopefully be starting uni at Bangor in september, which I'm bloody exited about.
I'll pass my driving test in the not too distant future, so I can ride wherever I like.
Here's to a better 2013.
Edit: got a job too, which has been tough, but brilliant fun.