[Closed] Girlfriend Problems

To be fair on Hora, he's probably not all that far off the mark....

He was well off the mark here:

hora - Member
We've all had girls that can orgasm massively very quickly.

I think a lot of people are missing something.

Sex is important in a relationship. Not because you get off, you can manage that on your own; but because of the intimacy. Without intimacy, what you've got there is a flatmate.

Yeh but come on, I wouldn't be impressed if I woke up with his beady eyes staring up from my vegetable patch...

Nom nom nom nom 😆

He was well off the mark here:

Some take a lot less work that others that's for sure. Some are screamers, some are quiet.

I've tried Hora's technique of listening, being patient, offering my 'services' , I don't get angry never raise my voice or argue about it and talk sensitively about the subject, but it's made no difference. sorry for threadjack.

is it about time this thread was put to bed?

[i]Sex is important in a relationship. Not because you get off, you can manage that on your own; but because of the intimacy.[/i]

You're making the same mistake as previously.

I appreciate that in boyworld intimacy = sex, but in the real world this is not always the case. Sex is not as important as you seem to think, which is why relationships can continue long after sex is no longer an issue, which is why relationships where people cannot or can no longer have sex can be successful.

Tj, I concur.

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TandemJeremy - Member
is it about time this thread was put to bed?

Post reported for god awful pun. 😉

A girl needs to feel comfortable, flattered, unpressured and woo'd.

Us blokes think 'buy some wine, get her razzed' as we are always up for it/we are like ho****er on demand from a combi boiler.

When a girl feels unpressured, relaxed and no issues she'll want it. if you argue over lack of sex it becomes a cycle/elephant in the room. Kiss, cuddle THEN stop yourself. A few of these and she'll be in the mood. Argue a lot in general and sex will be the last thing on her mind.

Saying all this you could simply keep your partner locked in the cellar and tell her the world is flat and the air poisonous outside 😀

At the end of the day if she's not willing to work at it too then it's pointless. If she continues to see it as 'my problem' rather than as 'our problem' then it's dead in the water really.

Yep, that appears to be the crux of the matter. Maybe don't put it as her not being willing to work at it though - if she doesn't want sex [b]at all[/b] then she has compromised her feelings significantly for your benefit. She obviously just couldn't carry on like that, as you can't. If everything else is great, then I hope you can remain good friends as it would be a shame to lose her completely.

hora - Member

If I met someone as highly sexed as me I wouldn't have time to type

How much do those filthy dating sites cost? If we had a whip round I reckon we could sort him out...

[i]If we had a whip round I reckon we could sort him out... [/i]

There are probably EU grants that we could apply for.

Let her go and another bloke give her the attention she deserves.

Sort of sell a Lotus Elise to someone who can actually drive it properly.

Like lads say 'lots of girls out there who will give you lots of sex'.

Personally I want a partner, soulmate, friend first and filthy sex second. Its easier to fix the later than find the former.

I think a lot of people are missing something.

Sex is important in a relationship. Not because you get off, you can manage that on your own; but because of the intimacy. Without intimacy, what you've got there is a flatmate

This... very true for me. There may come a time when it is not important to me, but it sure as hell is now.

[b]Troubleandstrife[/b] good luck mate, correct call I think. Let us know how things go

[b]Hora[/b] it cannot always be fixed, wish it could. I don't want a platonic soulmate.

How much do those filthy dating sites cost?

Plenty More Naughty Fish FTW!!

So i'm told... 😳

OP - do you and your gf live together?

desparategit - have you actually left your wife yet or still having your cake and eating it?

good words hora

You could always get a **** buddy.

I think the point of that Times post (that was taken WAY WAAAAAY to far) is that women now want dazzling careers, a baby at 30 (or demanding the NHS pay for expensive fertility treatment) and then a perfect man who earns more than them... listens to everything they say.... and is nice (even though half the time what they say they want in reality isn't).

Except life really isn't like that. Now that women are earning nearer to men, it's harder for them to date up. Careerist women have a lack of options, feminism tells them they should earn as much as men but they are loathe to date 'losers' who earn less than they do. Those men that are earning a good amount are prone to cheating as they know they can get women whenever they want. Careers have become more important than love, so when women do have children they don't want to sacrifice their careers. So instead they try to single handedly take on the role of caring for their child (half of them don't trust men to do it their own way), whilst intimacy takes a back seat.

Honestly if the girls on here think men should enjoy this and put up with it, well those of us who aren't 'losers' can play the field and for that we are grateful to feminism. You gave us even more freedom than ever when it comes to not growing up or being irresponsible. For the 'loser' men in society there will be ever growing rage in the back of their minds having to squabble over spoilt brats that treat them like dirt. *Ducks under air raid shelter awaiting bombardment of misandry and accusations of misogyny"

Hello - another one stuck in the 1950s.

Its nice to have a relationship that is a partnership of equals. its the modern way. Works nicely

Personally I want a partner, soulmate, friend first and filthy sex second.

after many years of this, it breaks your soul and you feel like a unattractive comfort blanket. Life is far too short to be unhappy

Jesus wept there is no one left for you to loathe or pour scorn on I pity you and your view of both men and women
Do you miss the good ole days when women knew their place?

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Picking up on the 'she doesn't tell me what she wants' thing - maybe that's because she has a low sex drive and as such d

Fat finger - will try again

after many years of this, it breaks your soul and you feel like a unattractive comfort blanket. Life is far too short to be unhappy

"If my work has a theme, I suspect it is a simple one: that most human beings are inescapably alone, and therein lies their tragedy." - Richard Yates

If she has a low sex drive she may not fantasise about anything and therefore not really have anything she specifically wants other than keeping you happy. I try to meet my oh midway and accept that he has a huger sex drive than me, but I'm very aware that it's more for his pleasure than mine.

And it *is* hard to talk about this stuff. Particularly when the starting point always seems to be that there's a problem that needs fixing, rather than accepting your differences and dealing with that.

"Jesus wept there is no one left for you to loathe or pour scorn on I pity you and your view of both men and women

Do you miss the good ole days when women knew their place?"

No, I believe the cultural idea of "and then they were married happily ever after" should be destroyed and people should be encouraged to be stronger emotionally in the face of a culture that actively encourages transient relationships.

Women used to die a lot around childbirth, men would end up being married multiple times....now both parties live to roughly the same age...for a lot longer....and both genders are almost equal in terms of pay etc. The whole idea of marriage is obsolete.

Someone's offended easily. Can't edit it, the edit button here seems to have a time delay.

How the **** is that racist? The cultures are entirely different and a lot of dubious men date Asians because they think they are easier to control because of those cultural differences.

Dig away dude.

Bite me. Develop some insight before you accuse.

I don't bite racists, they taste funny

now both parties live to roughly the same age...for a lot longer....and both genders are almost equal in terms of pay etc. The whole idea of marriage is obsolete.

yes you are right i just cannot love my equal who will live as long as me or perhaps even earn as much as me.....it makes me seems so feeble and weak.

So now i have accepted this and to find true true love and emotional maturity I just need abit more help from you.
Where do I get me one of these submissive subservient asian wifes you are bigging up 😯

You are not a racist but your views are ****ing idiotic

Really? Actually the people I'm being racist towards (possibly) are white men, as I'm just spouting what some Nepalese and Thai friends complain about.

'Already broken'?

Jesus wept. Let her go then. I love it but I prefer the person first. Intimacy, shared jokes. Everything else is a Brucey Bonus.

This going to sound harsh OP but what if one day you experienced Erectile issues. Could your other half leave you as she wanted 'cock' as it was important to her?

yes you are right i just cannot love my equal who will live as long as me or perhaps even earn as much as me.....it makes me seems so feeble and weak.

So now i have accepted this and to find true true love and emotional maturity I just need abit more help from you.
Where do I get me one of these submissive subservient asian wifes you are bigging up

You are not a racist you are just a **** idiot

Marriage was conceived by the church at a time when people on average lived 30 years less than they do today if they lived to be 16. So you're telling me that institution and the ideals that go with it are a good idea in today's society? Tell you what, why don't you come back with a reasoned answer. Then I might listen.

WOW that really is a new twist on some of my best friends are

you give us the superb some of my friends are racist as a defence that really is a new approach to the old cliche

PS do you often ask non white men what white men think?
Do you want to ask this white westerner about Nepalese and Thais men views on women?
i refer you to my previous point about your views being idiotic.

Tee hee

some fine stuff gets written on here but his is exemplary.

bwaarp

Are you happily married?

I'm closing this thread before the Universe falls into the hole being dug.