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Malvern Rider. I'm weak-willed around junk food and this is compounded by poor mobility owing to arthritis-caused joint-damage (a disease that helped kick-start weight gain when I was 30). My biggest issue is discipline/self-control - which is made more difficult by compromised mobility. To compound problems I hit the gym back in Feb - typical bull in china shop and damaged adductor muscle. Still giving probs and just given 'complete rest' advice by doc. No bike. No gym. No food
Isn't this most people though? Not to make light of your particular personal problems Malvern Rider, but I'm sure we all have injuries and various disorders. I'm sure most people also suffer from some issue of will power around something. Whether it's take away chicken, fizzy drinks, beer, chocolate, cake.....we're all somewhere on a curve.
Giving in to our cravings is a one way ticket to mobility scooters and giant stretchy trousers.
It's perfectly understandable not to find alot of fat people attractive. I'm a chunky type myself and not immune to it.
Once you start feeling embarrassed to be with people though, Well that's just downright odd, you probably want to be taking a look at yourself. You've gone full ****er tbh.
Giving in to our cravings is a one way ticket to mobility scooters and giant stretchy trousers.
Agreed. Although - in defence - I was actually *underweight* (10 stone) when in (self-propelled) wheelchair for two years. The disease/inflammation was so aggressive in my lower joints I had to be lowered into the hydro-pool by a hoist. I vowed to beat the disease into remission and get out of the wheelchair onto crutches and walk again. It took another twelve years to get away from walking aids but my activity levels were low simply because of pain and I took to 'comfort' eating. All the more reason to beat myself up for having continued to put weight on *since* getting off sticks. I can now walk three miles before pain slows me. Before arthritis I walked between 30-40 miles (round route from West Mids to Arley/Button Oak) every Sunday of the year, also commuted to work by bike daily and cycled offroad with mates a couple of evenings.
Sorry buddy, I didn't realise it was quite so bad.
No worries jimjam - still no excuses! Again, I only judge myself harshly *because* know am built of sterner stuff and also live/d for the outdoors - so to slow/complicate an already bonkers-lengthy recovery period by adding in weight-gain is a major offence.
The disease/inflammation was so aggressive in my lower joints I had to be lowered into the hydro-pool by a hoist.
That sounds genuinely horrendous 🙁
That sounds genuinely horrendous
It doesnt make you feel too sexy tbh. But I did meet a depressed Italian clown (he went to 'clown college' and everything) at these hydro sessions. He was in for a back injury. He was so depressed about his back that he blamed the world for it. He referred to absolutely everyone generically (especially NHS staff) as 'a-pissin-a****az'. Funniest thing ever 😆 We were both skinny back then, I sometimes wonder if he's now 'fat at 50' ?
embarassed to be with people though, Well that's just downright odd, you probably want to be taking a look at yourself. You've gone full **** tbh.
Yep. Our mother once confided to us her 'embarrasment' at being seen out with an overweight family member. All that did was make us further dislike mother's personality (ironically herself long-term overweight). People can be such bitches. Self-righteous hypocritical bitches are rubbish. So is being overweight, but for completely different reasons. Sort it all out!
30kg overweight? And you lost 52kg..... Sheet.
See. It's genetic.
I think the person in the phone shop could clearly see it was your sister but looking at the two of you just assumed you were of the sort that marries their (fat) sister. Shame indeed.
Congrats to anyone who has lost weight after becoming fat. Can't be easy as everything must be hard. There is probably no easy way to broach a topic like this with someone without offending them. But the probably know they're fat.
I also think the body positive movement thing is ridiculous. Happy to accept people for their natural shape and not encourage zero size models but they shouldn't enable/encourage fatness as it is unhealthy and the same as smoking, anorexia etc.
There seems to have been a massive reduction in smoking since they removed it from pubs and campaigned against it to the point whereby now it's almost socially unacceptable. Maybe they can do similar for obesity.
It's genetic.
Could be a mix really. My Father and I cycle hard regularly and really have to watch our dietary intake.
Dusting helps but we respond to exercise far more than dieting.
I'm going to have an OP soon and will be in a wheelchair for 2 months so I'm on a diet again to prepare against gaining too much lard.
Just ate a large salad 30 kcal and stuffed but could murder some sugar. Will power!
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... murder some sugar. Will power!
You need to find something to kill off those sugar crave but not sure what works for you. Me MSG food ...
Plus very strong will power like giving up smoking cigarette.
Live and let live tends to be my outlook on life, so can't say I actually dislike Tubbies for being Tubby, some of the particularly oversize models don't exactly command respect, but heck you don't know their individual circumstances.
The Only time I do get a bit aggravated is having part of the larger US versions spilling over into my seat on a long haul flight and I do think if Airlines charged by weight some of us lighter types who like to travel with sports equipment might not have to pay so much, but other than that, it's their problem and as long as they know the risks.
One of my kids struggles and she's become a really angry person as a result, it is such a shame that we do live in a world where we are instantly judged by what we look like.
It's not my fault as to why I eat too much and put on weight. It's my glands.
Big difference between being fat and morbidily obese. If someone is fat and happy more power to them.
Being morbidly obese is unhealthy, end of.
Children who are obese before the age of ten is a disgrace.
I don't understand being fat as I've always been skinny, but I try not to judge I don't know the reasons why someone is overweight. Sure some people are probably greedy, only difference is you can see it with fat people. Plenty of skinny people who are greedy in other ways, but you can't see it so obviously. Mental health, life problems all come into it, so unless you've been in someone's shoes dont look down on them, as you don't know their situation.
I do have a prejudice of morbid obesity, I know this and have to be self aware enough not to be a judgmental prick when seeing morbidly obese adults! However as a teacher when I see pupils who are morbidly obese I get really angry with the parents, as far as I am concerned it is a clear sign of neglect and someone should be taking the parents to task over it! I don't blame the children, they genuinely don't know better and think crisps and energy drink is a normal breakfast!
I'm one of those people STW love to despise.
Oh and I'm diabetic too.
And an immigrant.
So, 100% a hated member of the STW society..
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(big boy)
Nobody hates anyone Teetoesugars.
It's just disagreements over different values or just prejudices.
Trying/(doing)not to be prejudiced myself as it's carp thing to do including hurting the feelings of others.
Right I've had my 1700 kcals. Ridden 24 miles (commute round trip) hard as I could and I'm still hungry FFS.
Apparently good sleep suppresses appetite.
I'm honest and fatist I'm not fond of tubsters of any kind.
I'm a big unit in a Dwayne Johnson kind of way but on the plane last week I had to sit next to the most enormous bloaters you could imagine both going and coming back. Trouble is 90% of the people on the plane were just as fat even the thick ankled stewardesses what a crap job that is.
Most of the passengers were knackered by the time we'd walked to the passport control what a fricken state to be in.
I had a fat friend once, gave him an invite to my gym, now he's hench.
He actually thanked me the other day for saving his life. 😀
I'm pretty sure there's often a (reflective?) effect between narcissists and those who are overweight or aren't 'body perfect'.
People who are overweight generally lack the will power or self respect to sort it out. Like me but often worse. I don't like that sort of person.
Not interested in objections based on the odd "genuine" excuse.
Way to many people out there are slobs who need to get of their arses and do some exercise and cut out eating the crap.
Its not good for them but I don't care about that but its not good for our health service.
Pretty much how I feel about it too. I understand there's something not right mentally with fat people as I used to be in the same position (half my former highest weight, at which time I was pretty miserable and comfort eating) but I feel like people just want the easy option. Which there isn't - well it gets easier when you get into the routine but it seems some are "happy" living their unhealthy lifestyle. Happy to moan about it though. It's just a vicous cycle.
Don't worry, be happy.
A very overweight colleague at work got a serious warning, plus some statins and diabetes drugs, after his Over 40 MOT in the summer.
He's dusted of his old bike, rides 15 miles 2-3 times a week, has lost a stone and is getting his numbers down. Just needed that scare.
I, on the other hand, have just been for a fitting for a bike which included the very nice bike fitter suggesting that I was a little too near the 80kg weight limit to spec the bling all carbon seat post! 😳