[Closed] Doing well in life

poppa - Member

What I don't fully understand is where all the pressure to try and be wealthy, have a flash new car etc. comes from. I mean, most of us are pretty lucky in this day and age, we take for granted that food, running water, acommodation, medical care etc is well within everybodies reach. Why should anyone feel bad if they dont have/want the latest tech gadget, car the most expensive clothes etc?

I guess I must be a failure then. No I dont earn £35k but I don't care. 😳

I'm very happy. Married with a stunning little 3 weeks old daughter, healthy, own house (x2), 4 bikes & a few nice new cars.

I'm guessing the 6 little numbers I got correct help tho!! 😆

To be at peace with one's existence.

To crush your enemies, see them driven before you, and to hear the lamentation of their women.

Conan the Barbarian?

Looking at the confusion here it's obvious a lot if us don't truly know what makes us feel happy -- so why not an app? Looks for common themes/things that are around when your happy, then at least you'll know what it is that makes you happy.

So does this app use peer reviewed scientific methods to determine your happiness? Or is it a big load of hairy balls?

I don't think a big load of hairy balls would determine my happiness, obviously some people like that sort of thing tho 🙂

Conan the Barbarian?

I don't think a big load of hairy balls would determine my happiness, obviously some people like that sort of thing tho

I think there are quite a few people who would be happy if they had regular access to a big load of hairy balls.

Regarding the wealth vs. happiness...I wish I had known what I know know when I decided on my current career path - there are other things I'd rather be doing that sat at a desk.

Lets be honest, in global terms, we are all extremely wealthy, so if your not happy, money is not going to be the root cause...it's how you [i]perceive[/i] money that affects your happiness.

Started my career at 35 and am now having to look at retraining already (36). Massive student loan and enormous mortgage with very little disposable income and no savings/pension .

Very happy though, great marriage and two cracking daughters, happy within myself and I'm sure the economics will catch up at some point.

Had a good life up to my early 30's, had loads of spare income, had more nice cars/watches/clothes than most people will ever have so I no longer aspire to such things as they are just not important.

Money is nice, but you don't need it to be happy.

Achieving what you set out to do.

Too much sense is being talked on this thread.

Achieving what you set out to do.

Little as possible... 😀

Having enough cheese?

I feel like I'm doing well as long as there's someone less fortunate than me I can take the piss out of.

I'm doing well at failing. Does that count? I don't think it's the failing that's the problem; it's the awareness of it that get you down.

All I ask is the chance to prove that money can't make me happy.

Me n the wife don't earn 36K between us!

live in a 3 bed semi ex council place with a tiny mortgage 😀 ,one 6 year old and one imminent.

All the bills are in credit , we have 6 bikes between us only 2 aren't in use due to a belly full of arms n legs. Everything is good at home we're all 'Doing well in life'

I got good results at school but really didn't want to carry on in education (read lazy).My mum is always cracking on about how I could've done better/be earning more.

I'd rather be happy than rich , my family are in good health and we don't want for much. that's all I need.

Access to decent libraries is always close to the top of my list.

And a working bike.

I agree with clubber.

Spend time doing the things that make you happy, but not screwing anyone over in the process.

All I ask is the chance to prove that money can't make me happy.

Access to decent libraries is always close to the top of my list.

You've got to be kidding, right?

You measure the level of success in your life by your proximity to a building with books in it?

I can see the benefit in books (well, not really as I don't read anything but bike mags and porno (well I don't 'read' the prono but you know what I mean)) but being near a room full hardly defines you as a person.

You measure the level of success in your life by your proximity to a building with books in it?

I have a lifelong [url= http://www.bodleian.ox.ac.uk/bodley ]'Bod'[/url] library card, awarded upon graduation from Oxford University. I'm reasonably happy with that achievement.

So, in short, yes. 8)

Wife I love and who loves me.
Same goes for my son.
Nice house I'm happy with and can afford in a nice town in a nice part of the country, with a good network of friends locally, both bikey and non-bikey.
Good network of friends bikey and non-bikey nationally too.
Happy extended family (for the most part), although not local which is a bit of a bummer.
Career of choice that pays as well as can be expected, yet still gives me plenty of time at home.
Time to ride a few times a week and enough cash to cover bike breakages/upgrades if sensible.
Healthy and nearly as fit as I can be.

Yeah, I'm doing ok 🙂

Happy and healthy.
Wife that I adore, and she adores me 99% of the time.
Two lovely kids, with whom I cherish every minute.
Lovely and loving parents, have given me a brilliant start in life.
Great family, and on the out-laws side too.
Could do with more money, but then again I enjoy my job a lot, so no real complaints.
Could do with more time on the bike and for fitness, but the above take priority.
Don't need an App to measure any of the above surely?

Why not say you;

'measure success by getting a posh degree at a posh Uni, which by the way lets me get into a posh library to read (no doubt) posh books.

So clearly I'm soooo much more successful than you bunch of thick gits'

Rather than some coded bollox about 'access to decent libraries'

It might just be me, but I'd rather have teeth than a library card.

but I'd rather have teeth than a library card

That is some excellent menacing you are doing there TSY. Nice work.

I've got a great library round the corner. If only I could read

Torm - I think someone's stolen my log on... I've been rubbishing people's bikes over there <<< all morning, completely out of character.

Rather than some coded bollox about 'access to decent libraries'

Nope, any library will do. I just like books. Big rooms of 'em, even better. Doesn't make me more intelligent or successful than anybody else on here, but - shockers - it does make me happy. You were the one questioning why that should be so.

I suspect we are both big and ugly enough to deal with that fact, eh?

TSY - laminated library cards can also be used to slice up food in an emergency.

😆

... and TBF it'd probably be a better way of escaping from the rock in 127 hours too...

Given that councils seem to be reducing the number of libraries due to lack of demand, your life is going to get decidedly shit.

WTF?

Weirdo.

Plus, laminated library cards can be used for cutting up a line of drugs just before you snort it.

That might explain a few things?

your life is going to get decidedly shit

There's always knitting. Or bowls.

That might explain a few things?

Necking drugs can hardly compare with the excitement of a town library on a wet tuesday afternoon. But perhaps you can't handle it.

You could buy a Kindle then go live in a cave and eat berries and mud.

You'll be close to literature for the rest of your life...or until Amazon stops supporting it.

Doing well in life

The only person who can can ultimately make you feel good is you. I would say you are dong well if you are able to satisfy most of your desires, those of the people who depend on you and still have time to sleep deeply all night.

Life is pretty simple really. I think the people who are doing well have realised this and paired away all of the unnecessary fat that surrounds them. What remains matters and that's all you need to be happy.

sh1tforbrains, hostile much? I sense a bit of posh-phobia.

The only person who can can ultimately make you feel good is you

Amen brother, as long as I've youp...

posh-phobia

The only posh person on STW is CFH.

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The only person who can can ultimately make you feel good is you

And you've got the internet to provide accessible visual stimulus...

Not really, I don't mind posh people at all, as long as they don't like libraries.

[url= http://amplicate.com/love/libraries ]Libraries FTW[/url]

Like I said, weirdo!

Like I said, weirdo!

64% love libraries. So, winner. 😀