So an adult being an out of control bully is your cure for children being bullies, I hope to god you don't have kids.
Wondered how long it'd take(father of one, extremely laid back, mild mannered 8 yr old)
If he was a 9 th dan he would have been a grand master and an internationally renowned instructor and leader of a school and an international champion etc so that part was BS
As for the rest [if true] that is not a solution as it teaches them that bullies win just be a better bully
Very tricky, believing kids... Take on board what they say, but seek other viewpoints.
Thanks for your post rkk01. I'm a while away (I hope!) from any need to deal with this, but got some 'take aways' 🙄 from what you wrote.
just a thought...A few years ago I met an old aquaintance from school in a pub. someone I'd not seen for maybe 20 years. Turn out he felt that I'd bullied him and that me and my friends "made his life hell". I was genuinely surprised at this, as it turns out what I thought of as banter, play fighting and running jokes was actually quite upsetting for this guy. I found this revelation particuarly upsetting as I'd been bullied all through school and always thought of myself as the victim.
long story short, I bought him a pint and apologised, he confessed to shagging my ex-girlfriend (a few years later I must add!) and all seems to be resolved, but maybe the OP's daughter doesn't even realise she is a bully?
If he was a 9 th dan he would have been a grand master and an internationally renowned instructor and leader of a school and an international champion etc so that part was BS
He'd probably be more than that - he'd be retired. Because it takes a hell of a long time to get to 9th dan. Something in the region of 50 years.
Let your daughter do the talking and thinking
+100, that's good parenting right there.
so he believed what his kid tells him and you didn't believe yours and as a result you now don't talk? Sounds like you were both wrong, really?
Good luck with all that 🙄
