[Closed] Celibacy..........

It is if you're an ugly c**t!

or married

or married!!

i see..........!

no, cos there is someone for everyone.
and when you meet the one, juices start to flow and you can't help yourself......... 😉

why do you ask?

why do i ask? just wondered if anyone actually has the willpower!

Plenty of people seem to manage it; voluntarily even.

Is it willpower or fear?

for me it would have to be willpower

Yes, it does exist. Around 8 years for me, as stopped dating around then. Got trashed by someone I loved and decided to draw the line there.

So aleigh are you wondering if you are a bit to free with your favours?

Mudshark, i think what aleigh means is she like a bit and is gagging for it, but would rather try to celibate than be free with her flower.

Oh and ftr, i couldn't.

i'd rather be dead

Midnighthour that's a shame. They're not all like that. give it another try, you might get a pleasant surprise.

and no, I'm not offering 😉

i'm not too sure what you mean mudshark!

lol @ sharki 😆

...would rather try to celibate than be free with her flower.

Managing to resist those that want to pluck her?

wouldn't have quite put it like that 😆

It was the 2nd time I got really burned. Too old now to do the family stuff and can't face dealing with someone who has their own kids, would feel too left out and not part of it all.

You miss sex to start with, but you notice it less as time goes on.

Me and my willy used to get into all sorts of trouble until I discovered that a side affect of anti depressants was zero sex drive......everybodies appy!!

don't feel like that - you could still get joy out of bringing up someones elses kids 🙂

Gizzard, made me smile, thanks. Its a common problem with ADs I think.

Sorry to hear that Midnight.. plenty of folk out there with no kids, don't want kids, etc. etc.

Not even the sex what about companionship etc...

I tried that. Bloke I just started dating but had been friends with for ages got a call from an ex saying she was 3 months pregnant, after we had been dating for a month. Stood by him for 2 years of hell she put us through - it had to be her that went to family events and me that was left out - and when it started getting better and the future looked more rosy he told me I had never mattered to him and why would he want me if he had a child?

Nope, no one with kids. Too much pain.

What about enforced celibacy?

Strangely I suffered it when I was with the girlfriend, and now I'm not with her I'm stuck with it just as much because I'm a funny looking funker and I can't pull...

I think wee superstar might have died 😯

superstar_opponents, not just a limp hand shake then...;)

Gizzard Puke - Member

Me and my willy used to get into all sorts of trouble until I discovered that a side affect of anti depressants was zero sex drive......everybodies appy!!

another side effect of some of them (paroxetine especially IIRC but I work in kiddie mental health now so sex doesn't really come up that often..) is that you last a lot longer when you do. Do it, that is. You could be making that special someone at least 30% happier! 😉

Superstar, sympathy, as I dont seem to be the sort of person people want either. Different levels of sex drive can be a real problem (remembered from back in the days when I did indulge!).

Midnighthour - you have experienced some unpleasant events but don't let it affect your outlook on life. There are a lot of decent people out there so be filled with optimism rather than despair.

sharki- it's not so much limp as got in a huff and hidden.

Fortunately you can make a fleshlight on the cheap using a latex glove wrapped inside a tea towel with the opening folded over the top. A squirt of GT85 and it's surprisingly realistic.

I am sure there are lots of very nice guys out there - its just they want pretty 25 year olds and I certainly dont count as one of those in either respect 🙂

Off to bed now (alone!). Thanks for nice comments. Hope all your sex lives err, pick up!

optimism? i've never heard it called that before.

Mignighthour, your lack of wanting/looking for anything will mean it will happen when you least expect it, it will be even more special because of that, reguardless of the whether it's sexual, platonic or just gaining a soul mate.

you last a lot longer when you do.

Oh, I'm afraid it was nothing like that- it wasn't me not working, just a lack of interest.

Would women object if I started calling my business "wee superstar" do you think?

Well, sex is alright but you can't beat the real thing! [img] [/img]

imagine what you could achieve if you were celibate and actually wanted no more to do with it. Most blokes (and lots of women's) waking thoughts are peppered with sex, constantly... I should think if we all followed midnight's example we'd have invented a cure for cancer by now.

I think it is possible but kissing a lady you love is priceless.

Sex? there's always mastercard

Celibate, but not by choice

Been on the singles scrapheap for too long now & I think it's starting to rust a little....

Orangista- go on then. You'll do.

If you dont push back then you are not gay 😯 fact

Might solve a few problems 😀

I'd go so far as saying it's probable 🙁

Still, I'm sleeping well 😀

Fascinating thread, you learn something new every day on here 😯

Following a crappy marriage and getting divorced at 26 I decided I would steer clear of long term relationships, whilst I thought this wouldn't last and don't rule out getting married again, I don't think I've had a relationship last much over 6 months in the last 10 years, and it's been a blast 🙂 But when I do finish a relationship I do generally decide to go a couple of months 'without', as I'm not really into to hopping from one to another. I tend to find the first couple of weeks without is a roller coaster ride of hormones, leering at women like a sex pest, but then all falls into balance and I don't think twice about it,...well not until the next opportunity presents! I think the key to it is just being comfy with yourself.

Well, that's a pretty young age to have been married and divorced by. But I guess it hasn't put you off completely as you are certainly, in your words "comfy with yourself". As long as you understand why the marriage failed, you can move forwards.