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downsizing is a bit out of vogue but not a bad idea if manageable. The wrong parts of life take up our time. It used to be recommended to take a look at our accounts to see where we spent our money to see if that was what we really intended. Nowadays we really need to do it with our time e.g. did we really need to waste an hour searching for something we had no intention of buying. Did we really need to waste two hours trying to save 30EUR on a booking when it's time we're short of
You are not alone though (as you can see from here). The energy required to sort this stuff out is often more that we have
OP i feel your pain and where your coming from.
Good luck, i can offer advice but i cant take it myself. Hope it works out. 🙁
So easy to take one's eye of the ball when you've been together for many years. Firstly you need to talk with your wife to explain how you feel then see if you can both find a way forward, perhaps involve Relate counselling.
Perhaps before doing this go on a bike ride to somewhere quiet, without the distraction of other people, where you can really think and shed a few tears if you want to. Even scream or shout if it helps. You need to unravel what's going on in your head, may help to write things down.
Your relationship comes before your job right now, that's your priority.
Good luck.
Work on the things where you have an input or where you can change things.
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I can't and won't comment on your relationship as there's obviously far more to it than you can put into a post, but job certainly sounds like something that can be altered.
Definitely talk to someone, be it a doctor, counsellor or an old friend. But I'd suggest something has to change before it gives, and you making that change puts you in control.
Oh - and turn off the news!