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I know it's only Saturday evening, anyone heard from #Binners;)...I only had one can and the only thing kicking off is the wind outside!


 
Posted : 23/12/2023 5:41 pm
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I know it’s only Saturday evening, anyone heard from #Binners;

Maybe in the end he couldn't 'leave it'.


 
Posted : 23/12/2023 5:48 pm
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Festive greetings! Cracking night last night. Everywhere was busy, beer and wine and cocktails were consumed, quite a few very drunk people around but it was all very good-natured. Glad I went out. Felt it this morning.

I wish everyone a fantastic time, however you celebrate this winter festival period

Indeed. Right back atcha, and everyone else

https://flic.kr/p/2mSEaY8


 
Posted : 23/12/2023 6:27 pm
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I’ve lost count of the number of women I’ve known who have had drinks spiked, who’ve been sexually assaulted and worse. In over half a century on this planet, I don’t know a single man this has ever happened to. Which is why I think it’s so important to be mindful of our own behaviour, and to take care of one another. The biggest risk to women (and indeed men) is male violence, sexual or otherwise. Therefore it’s so important to be aware of our own actions and how to help prevent bad things happening. There is no ‘victim blaming’ going on here at all.

I do know of men who have been sexually assaulted (albeit by another man) but that aside I don't majorly disagree with anything above. The idea that women need to be mindful of their dress, behaviour, etc., is practically sensible but morally and societally 100% wrong. That someone in any way is to blame for the outcome to them is just wrong, it's 100% on the perpetrator. It's entirely your entitlement to wear what you want and have as many drinks as you want, and until everyone accepts this then the victim blaming perpetuates.

Does it mean I don't tell my daughter to be careful and not have too many when she goes out? Hypocritical - maybe.

Also FWIW my daughter's friend was spiked at University on a night out. Her friends, my daughter included, rescued / sorted her out. It was particularly noticeable as a spiking because she is basically a non-drinker, so starting to be 'drunk' was a clear indication. Does she bear some responsibility, she wasn't disadvantaging herself by being drunk but equally she wasn't watching her drink like a hawk?


 
Posted : 24/12/2023 12:17 am
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I wish everyone a fantastic time, however you celebrate this winter festival period

Your hemispherism is very offensive.


 
Posted : 24/12/2023 1:06 am
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Well, the traditional of street fighting is not dead; a convergence of lads from Cork and Limerick into Kerry led to something like a wild west melee tonight. Lukerly me and my ancient crew were able to ignore it. But I counted 3 ambulances and 4 Garda vans.
People come back from all over world at this time of year and still have school grudges.


 
Posted : 24/12/2023 3:36 am
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Paid my way through Uni doing club doors in Dundee and also an ex plasterer who used to come off on that Friday so have seen both sides of it. NOTHING good happens that night.


 
Posted : 24/12/2023 7:20 am
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binners - He alive, hoorah.


 
Posted : 24/12/2023 10:34 am
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@theotherjonv I can’t find a Jimmy Dimly thread so I apologise if there is. This is quite relevant to the season (if I post the link correctly), article in The Guardian too.
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-politics-67813689


 
Posted : 24/12/2023 10:46 am
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it was mentioned in the Rishi! thread - I know he was not being serious but you'd just be so careful to know there's a phone or a journalist absolutely everywhere.


 
Posted : 24/12/2023 1:57 pm
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I do know of men who have been sexually assaulted (albeit by another man) but that aside I don’t majorly disagree with anything above. The idea that women need to be mindful of their dress, behaviour, etc., is practically sensible but morally and societally 100% wrong. That someone in any way is to blame for the outcome to them is just wrong, it’s 100% on the perpetrator. It’s entirely your entitlement to wear what you want and have as many drinks as you want, and until everyone accepts this then the victim blaming perpetuates.

Does it mean I don’t tell my daughter to be careful and not have too many when she goes out? Hypocritical – maybe.

Just to be clear; none of my comments relate to how anyone dresses or behaves. And it's not at all hypocritical to advise someone to be careful and take precautions; advising someone to wear hi-viz and have lights on their bike for riding at night, isn't 'victim blaming'. But alcohol unfortunately diminishes people's judgment, leaving them potentially vulnerable. We need a lot more awareness and education around alcohol and its effect on behaviour and safety. 

https://www.drinkaware.co.uk/advice-and-support/help-to-support-someone-else/alcohol-sexual-assault-and-harassment

Also FWIW my daughter’s friend was spiked at University on a night out. Her friends, my daughter included, rescued / sorted her out. It was particularly noticeable as a spiking because she is basically a non-drinker, so starting to be ‘drunk’ was a clear indication. Does she bear some responsibility, she wasn’t disadvantaging herself by being drunk but equally she wasn’t watching her drink like a hawk?

No. The responsibility lies with the assailant, 100%. Of course, nobody should have to watch their drinks or worry about being assaulted, but we sadly don't live in such a perfect world. So people need to look out for one another. And men need to call out offensive behaviour in other men. We as men all need to look at the root of the problem, which is ourselves. But of course this is a whole other discussion. Also; the rampant commercialism practiced by the alcohol industry really needs more stringent controls. Time after time, we see people who are already drunk, being served more alcohol. Profits matter more than individual safety. Society has to play a very high price for the damage alcohol causes. 

@theotherjonvI can’t find a Jimmy Dimly thread so I apologise if there is. This is quite relevant to the season (if I post the link correctly), article in The Guardian too.<br style="box-sizing: border-box; --tw-translate-x: 0; --tw-translate-y: 0; --tw-rotate: 0; --tw-skew-x: 0; --tw-skew-y: 0; --tw-scale-x: 1; --tw-scale-y: 1; --tw-scroll-snap-strictness: proximity; --tw-ring-offset-width: 0px; --tw-ring-offset-color: #fff; --tw-ring-color: rgb(59 130 246 / 0.5); --tw-ring-offset-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-ring-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow: 0 0 #0000; --tw-shadow-colored: 0 0 #0000; caret-color: #000000; color: #000000; font-family: Roboto, 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, 'Noto Sans', sans-serif, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, 'Segoe UI', 'Apple Color Emoji', 'Segoe UI Emoji', 'Segoe UI Symbol', 'Noto Color Emoji';" />https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-politics-67813689/a >

This is disgusting beyond belief. He should be sacked immediately. But we all know he won't be. Just a bit of 'lads banter'. 


 
Posted : 24/12/2023 2:05 pm
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I know he was not being serious but you’d just be so careful to know there’s a phone or a journalist absolutely everywhere

As summed up perfectly in my favourite (very very sweary) Malcolm Tucker rant 😃


 
Posted : 24/12/2023 2:09 pm
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Local club probably
Absolute carnage there last night

purity. nice pint that.
i was:

https://lh3.googleusercontent.com/p/AF1QipOtrfSa274ZQez8CM0wzHVIzpCc5S5DaL7UkfWB=s680-w680-h510

several pints of jail ale were consumed. it was a very sketchy ride home.


 
Posted : 24/12/2023 9:14 pm
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