[Closed] At what age is it acceptable?

It would depend - if you buy them £300 presents all the time because you are flash and want him to have the best of everything and every time he asks for something he gets it, then I'd call fool. Of course there could be other circumstances where it might be warranted

I bought him it because it's part of our bonding as daddy and boy, our life, our fun etc... It's extravagant but also a way of life/exercise I want him to enjoy 🙂

He also happens to be wonderfully well behaved and again in school today is in 'the special chair' .... which in his school is a GOOD thing, the opposite to the special chair when I was in school 🙂

Regarding TVs in bedrooms, isn't it better to be in bed with the wife at 10pm and watching TV while she goes asleep before you, instead of watching TV downstairs and coming to bed at 11pm and disturbing her ?

God no, she'd be watching crap* all night when I want to sleep!

* crap IMO, but then I don't really like police series.

see this is what happens when someone posts a thread with links to netsmum

I hope he's going the whole hog:
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Where do I get one of those TV stands? My 6 month old would love it!

It is all just a bit obscene - the most expensive presents our girls are getting are about £25.

But what have you actually bought them? Just because something only costs £25 doesn't mean it's suitable either.

Maybe you should have asked "what is an acceptable amount to spend on a 5 year old's Christmas presents?"

Sorry, I'm lost. So is it okay to buy my toddler a £300 telly to watch Al Jazeera on so long as it's his birthday?

Regarding TVs in bedrooms, isn't it better to be in bed with the wife at 10pm and watching TV while she goes asleep before you, instead of watching TV downstairs and coming to bed at 11pm and disturbing her ?

Not for us, no. I can deal with 5 minutes of disturbance when she comes to bed (and vice versa) much better than the sounds and light from a TV. Plus, we tend to go to bed at the same time most nights anyway.

^ those TV stand things are absolutely grim. Bedrooms are for sleeping or other recreational activities.

Not for us, no. I can deal with 5 minutes of disturbance when she comes to bed (and vice versa)

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But what have you actually bought them? Just because something only costs £25 doesn't mean it's suitable either.

If I see a trampoline on special offer we might get them one of those to share.

[i]Watch TV downstairs then go to your room for sleep.[/i]

thing is though, with Kids their rooms are the first (and for a long time the only) personal space they get to control, that rule pretty much ignores how most kids behave in their rooms, I don't know of any kids that use their bedrooms just "for sleep".

Just because there's a TV in the room, doesn't follow that all parental control has been abandoned! TBH it's a pretty good bargaining chip, behave yourself, or the telly goes...

Sorry, they both got the iPads when about 6 or 7 I recall. I do see the point of giving a child access to technology (we let our kids use our iPad at weekends) but to buy them one each (no doubt the 5 year old will be getting her own iPad in a year or so) is a bit excessive I think.

They are also getting an expensive games console (PS4 I believe) for Christmas. At least they are sharing that.

My youngest is getting an iPad my eldest a PS4.

Guess I'm a bad parent who is just materialistic. Or a one how loves his kids loads and doesn't mind spending some spare cash on them. I go off my mother's words she once gave me when I asked her if she thought I was spoiling them. "You can never spoil them, they're your kids, your life, your soul one day they won't be young kids any more or even not there at all"

Those words were even more poignant last week when I had a tragic job at work. I came home from that and swore I not put a budget on them this year, I have the cash sat there and more coming. I'm also off this Xmas so yes I'm having an extravagant one.

Still if you want to do something different then good for you but I can't see why you have to be judgemental of others, especially your own brother.

Sounds fine to me, except for the 'obsolete' CD players. Funny you mention that as I came across my old Sony Discman last night while I was looking for something else in a drawer. It hasn't spun a single disc since I got my first iPod in 2002.

But at least you won't have to deal with all the "Apps" though!

So by forcing them to have obsolete CD players, you're making them 'those wierd kids'.

See the damage you're doing to them by not showing that you love them by buying an iTouch 😉

Drac - there comes a time where I accept that I will need to buy my kids more expensive presents but I think my original point (although not expressed very well) is that I felt that a TV for a bedroom for a 5 year olds' birthday is wrong. Perhaps not necessarily too expensive, just that they shouldn't have a TV in their bedroom at such an early age.

FWIW, we bought our twins a climbing frame for their birthday which is probably equal in value to two TVs - but then we tend to spend more on their birthday than Christmas (partially because it is *their* day and partially because they get spoiled by friends and family at Christmas anyway).

Edit: And I wouldn't give them CD players if they were older, but at five they have no need for MP3 players.

Drac - there comes a time where I accept that I will need to buy my kids more expensive presents but I think my original point (although not expressed very well) is that I felt that a TV for a bedroom for a 5 year olds' birthday is wrong. Perhaps not necessarily too expensive, just that they shouldn't have a TV in their bedroom at such an early age.

Fair point. I didn't allow my eldest have on in her room until she was 9 😀

Edit: And I wouldn't give them CD players if they were older, but at five they have no need for MP3 players.

A music playing device of 1 type requires a different age than another to do the exact same thing?

And I wouldn't give them CD players if they were older, but at five they have no need for MP3 players.

Personally I don't allow my 5 year old anywhere near my CD collection. She got hold of my wife's Witney Houston CD the other day and let's just say it doesn't play now - not that I'm complaining.

A music playing device of 1 type requires a different age than another to do the exact same thing?

Can't see an issue with things like pads as they're easy to take away. How are you going to police a 5yo watching late-night grot whilst you're asleep?

Think I was around 10 when I got one in my room, primarily to sling a ZX Spectrum in front of. About the raciest stuff available to my clandestine late-night viewing was Remington Steele and Cagney & Lacey, in monochrome interference-o-vision.

She got hold of my wife's Witney Houston CD the other day and let's just say it doesn't play now - not that I'm complaining.

That's brilliant. It'll no doubt a massive coincidence when the rest of your wife's crap CDs meet a similar fate. "Your Peter Andre CD doesn't work? That's a shame, must be darling daughter again..."

It's funny how the most anti-television people are often the very same people who like to let everyone know so via the internet, hey ho.

Anyway, no at 5 a TV in the room is the parents trying to buy themselves some time away from their kids, my son is 9 and would like one so he can play Minecraft in his room, but we'd have to drag him out kicking and screaming - we're going to hang on for a few years until he's a teenager and wants to spend any time at home on his own anyway.

He's had a tablet device for a few years now, he loves Minecraft PE (which is TOTALLY different to Minecraft PS3 or PC I'm told) - chose an Samsung Android one partly because at the time ipads were still fortunes but mostly because I can have a lot more control of it - I've restricted youtube to the weekends and he can't turn off safe mode - the internet is limited to only the safest websites and I can audit everything he views and does on their via Google.

He's recently got into Instagram, but again it's an account in my name he doesn't have the password for, so he's got a closed account and has to ask me before he can accept any new followers - I can see who he follows or searches for any time.

We've also had the 21st century version of the 'chat' about strangers, puppies and vans.

We bought our daughter a tv for her bedroom when she was about 6, she's now at sheffield university doing a degree in bio chem and genetics, dosen't appear to have rotted her brain.

On the cost thing...

What if your "£25 max per present" was a higher percentage of your disposable income, than, say, a £400 gift was from a ridiculously well off family??

In that sense, YOU are being the flash extravagant one......

DrP

It's funny how the most anti-television people are often the very same people who like to let everyone know so via the internet, hey ho.

I'm not anti-TV, I am anti-TV in bedrooms though. They are bad for getting decent sleep and bad for your sex life - there's quite a lot of studies/evidence to back this up BTW.

I still watch a fair bit of TV, but only through a projector with Netflix/iPlayer etc. Personally I find it's a totally different thing when you make a conscious decision to watch stuff rather than just sitting in front of whatever you can find.

Some people maybe have more self-control than me and find it easier not to end up watching dross.

and bad for your sex life - there's quite a lot of studies/evidence to back this up BTW

Amazingly, I just turn it off when this happens...

They are bad for your sex life

Not a major issue for a 5 year old though.

TV's don't ruin your sex life, it's the wife getting old and fat that does that.

nickc - Member
Watch TV downstairs then go to your room for sleep.

thing is though, with Kids their rooms are the first (and for a long time the only) personal space they get to control, that rule pretty much ignores how most kids behave in their rooms, I don't know of any kids that use their bedrooms just "for sleep".

Just because there's a TV in the room, doesn't follow that all parental control has been abandoned! TBH it's a pretty good bargaining chip, behave yourself, or the telly goes...

+ 1

our boys are 8 and 12, they both have TV's in their rooms and have had since probs aged 6/7. Thing is, they rarely watch telly on them, but do use for gaming. Eldest is footie daft on his XBox, yougest is into minecraft and skylanders on Wii.

We have never had an issue getting them out there rooms, to sport, on bikes, swimming etc and as a family we neither individually or collectively watch much tv. Movie maybe at the weekend on Chromecast or Netflix. They do both have Beats, with eldest having a Chromebook he got for his 11th. Youngest borrows mums ipad for restricted periods, but is getting an ipad mini this yr for Christmas. he also has my old windows phone for when he is out with his pals and we want him back for food, elder has his mums old iphone.

It's funny how the most anti-television people are often the very same people who like to let everyone know so via the internet, hey ho.

I think you're confusing being Anti-TV with being technophobic. The internet is generally much more interactive than TV, which is about as passive an experience as you can get....

Reading a book is just as passive on that basis...

We bought our daughter a tv for her bedroom when she was about 6, she's now at sheffield university doing a degree in bio chem and genetics, dosen't appear to have rotted her brain.

That proves nothing really. Some people still achieve things in life even if their parents neglect them badly (not implying you did this of course - it's only a TV!)

I think you're confusing being Anti-TV with being technophobic. The internet is generally much more interactive than TV, which is about as passive an experience as you can get....

On that basis you could argue that the internet is potentially a lot more harmful than a passive TV. Especially for a 5 year old.

It's almost like there isn't a single correct-for-all-situations answer. Shocker.

But a computer is much better. Nothing on the internet but good wholesome edutainment.

and loads of pron. Probably more unsavoury than loose women and Jeremy kyle.

Whilst everyone worries about tv its all there on the internet 247 without any watershed. I wonder if anyone bothers to turn on the parent shield guard thing.

TV it self in the bedroom isnt a problem, just how much and what they watch.

TV's don't ruin your sex life, it's the wife getting old and fat that does that.

My wife is hot thanks. 🙂

Thinking of buying a TV for the bedroom? Think again - it could ruin your sex life.

A study by an Italian sexologist has found that couples who have a TV set in their bedroom have sex half as often as those who don't.

"If there's no television in the bedroom, the frequency (of sexual intercourse) doubles," said Serenella Salomoni whose team of psychologists questioned 523 Italian couples to see what effect television had on their sex lives.

On average, Italians who live without TV in the bedroom have sex twice a week, or eight times a month. This drops to an average of four times a month for those with a TV, the study found.

http://tvnz.co.nz/content/650268/3362663.xhtml

I could probably find a more credible source but I can't be arsed.

Not a major issue for a 5 year old though.

Ba-doom-tish.

My wife is hot thanks.

Is she blind too ?

In that case, probably a radio over a TV...

Is she blind too ?

Moshi, I forgot to add that she never watched it, not once turned it on in 12 years, too busy reading those work of the devil things called books.

Funny that I had a TV in my bedroom from my early teens, but we haven't allowed my son to have one (and he's 16).

But, we do have two TV's downstairs (one with his Xbox connected) and he's a laptop in his bedroom.

Kids only watch too much TV when they're bored thus excess use is more down to other factors - a TV in your room is a nice way to chill under the right circumstances - take it out of their room if it's abused - And if that's the case you better have a good back up plan to facilitate a child's development with regards to how they spend their free time ..

[quote=Drac ]"You can never spoil them, they're your kids, your life, your soul one day they won't be young kids any more or even not there at all"

Which is of course complete bollocks - sorry. Of course you can spoil them. The thing is though, that's not particularly got anything to do with how much money you spend on them for a present (especially if they're young enough to have no particular concept of how much things cost).

[quote=grum ]Thinking of buying a TV for the bedroom? Think again - it could ruin your sex life.
A study by an Italian sexologist has found that couples who have a TV set in their bedroom have sex half as often as those who don't.

Correlation does not equal causation - I'd suspect it at least as likely that the causation is the other way round.

Though I have to admit, on the off-chance their conclusions are right I'm now thinking of getting a TV in the bedroom just so I can get rid of it, in case that helps.

Got one when I was 6 I think. Got a Master System the following year. Inherited the old toploader at some point as well.

Yes I used to spend hours on it but from memory it was only really in the winter when I had to be inside anyway. The rest of the time I'd be at friends houses or out pretending not to be causing trouble. As long as your kids are otherwise leading healthy and fulfilling lives then you can do a lot worse than give them a telly.

How are you going to police a 5yo watching late-night grot whilst you're asleep?

Most TVs have parental locks so you can lock out anything rated above a certain threshold. Just make sure you get one with that on and you're sorted.

TV can also double up as a computer monitor if that's another consideration (and miles more practical for homework than a tablet).

FWIW I refuse to have one in my bedroom now (for reasons already explained) and haven't reconnected the satellite since we got the extension built about 7 months ago (but still paying the licence, mug.)