[Closed] are you single?

I can be if the need is there.

it's a generous offer, thanks but no thanks 😉

This topic has been a revelation - for example:

From just reading posts I thought allthegear was a bloke! No a gorgeous woman - you certainly live and learn 🙂

From just reading posts I thought allthegear was a bloke! No a gorgeous woman - you certainly live and learn

She does sign off 90% of her posts with "Rachel", amazing how unattentive we males are on the whole eh! 😉

I can be if the need is there.
*tempts to post THAT pic!*

It's been a while, I think the current audience is ready for the pics once more! 😆

I'm not sure the current crop of forum dwellers are ready for such wierd/freakiness.

Also a banning would i'm sure be on the cards as it breaks most rules, and it goes well beyond the seeminly minor offences that get people very uppity on here of late.

mboy - i did notice the 'Rachel', but only once 😳 I will pay more attention from now on!

[i]This topic has been a revelation[/i]

More of a confirmation about certain things for me.

Like how young women live in a dream world where Mr Spontaneous, handsome, movie star is going to just pop up and sweep them off they feet.

Then they wake up one Sunday morning. They're now in their mid 30s and they realise, as they stare blurry eyed into the mirror.
That the dream didn't really turn out as they'd hope for.

That they didn't just happen to find Mr right, all unranged and unexpected while having [i]adventures[/i].

The more I think about it, the more I think Emma82 had it right.
She has her man, and that can be the greatest adventure of all, living and sharing your life with someone special to you.
I bet her photo album of her visiting all manner of places around the world with her BF is way better than one stuffed with pics of a single woman amongst people she met then, but doesn't keep in contact with now, at said different locations.

😉

Well said solo, (but I'm sure the same thing applies to all those dating site men) and well done (again) the the brilliant emma82

maybe the problem is there just aren't enough emma82's to go round 😀

Solo, you could apply a similar stereotype to blokes too i.e. they all want a Nuts model look-a-like, who isn't in any way demanding or needy, and lets her bloke do whatever he likes when he likes, and has a fit best mate who likes threesomes. And then gets to his 30-somethings and realises he's an ugly git who'll never attract a woman like that and needs to be more realistic and settle for a real woman. Or something...

ST and Kit.

Yeap, fair play there.

I've written that from the perspective of my position, and I'm not the guy who either lives in a dream where Julia Roberts is going to just turn up and tell me "this is it dude".

Or where women are there only to be used and messed around to inflate my self image.

But then again, I'm in my early 40s now and at least [b]I know[/b] that I'd like to find someone.

😉

And then gets to his 30-somethings and realises he should hit on 20-something females

FIFY

Nice try TSY.

But didn't you know ?. 20 somethings are only using you until Brad Clooney turns up.

Or, they are too busy for relationships as they are having unexpected, unarranged [i]adventures[/i].

😉

are having unexpected, unarranged adventures

You rang?

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Solo - if you're trying to have some kind of dig at me, please just come out and say it.

Sharki

I'd rather meet someone whilst out and about doing the things i love whilst i'm being me

Sue_W are you one of these paranoid 30-somethings I hear about from dating site horror stories??

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Sue_w, have I missed something?

Sue

Please read the thread. As TSY says. The Dating sites appear to be full of women who only want to travel and have adventures.
You won't know that, unless you are looking at the womens pages.....
They're all the same, its getting boring to read that about a woman.
Everyone travels, most refer to it as a holiday.
😉

But, if you want to exercise your paranoid gland, feel free.
However, before you do.
What the heck is in it for me to have a dig at a young woman I do not know ?.
😉

TSY. That picture was exactly what I was thinking.
😆

Ninja editor be ninja editing.

[i]Maybe it's her time of the month?
[/i]

Now, now. TSY.

Lets not pick on the lady. she may have barked at me, but I'm going to let it slide.

🙂

It's your word against mine Solo.

Everyone know's how well behaved [i]I[/i] am, and that there's not a chance in the world I'd say anything so derogatory.

TSY.

You've been out-Ninja'd.

Don't make it worse.

😀

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But, if you want to exercise your paranoid gland, feel free.

Lets not pick on the lady. she may have barked at me, but I'm going to let it slide.

Crikey, ever wondered why you're single? 😕

Personally, I think Sue_W has got exactly the right idea, but then I'm definitely more that kind of person myself anyway. It takes all sorts, and for every person like emma82 (and I totally respect her choices, it just wouldn't be for me) who is happy with their lot, there are people who (like me) are openly a bit more selfish about their needs/wants/desires.

Asking your BF/GF/Husband/Wife if it's ok before you go off to do something is just courtesy, of course it should be done. The issue would arise if any restrictions ever came into play about the amount of time spent with friends, or riding bikes etc. IMO, or if I was made to feel guilty for doing things I enjoy (as long as not harming anyone else of course).

TBH Solo... there'd be no point in me existing if someone hadn't captured that comment. You've fallen into my trap... your spreading my message whilst I get to seem like I have a conscience. 😀

Crikey, ever wondered why you're single?

He probbly hazzunt. Probbly blames women for [i]their[/i] issues and [i]their[/i] problems, rather than having the balls to look at himself.

You do seem a bit bitter towards women, Solo, going by your derogatory, judgemental and condescending dismissal of women with crap like this:

Like how young women live in a dream world where Mr Spontaneous, handsome, movie star is going to just pop up and sweep them off they feet.

Then they wake up one Sunday morning. They're now in their mid 30s and they realise, as they stare blurry eyed into the mirror.
That the dream didn't really turn out as they'd hope for.

Diddums. Always someone else's fault, is not it? Ah, you poor sausage....

So, why are you single again....?

I'm single because no one can put up with me for more than 5 minutes. Not even me! 😯

😥

m[b]boy[/b]

Sorry dude, I don't think Sue is interested.

Never mind 😉

As for being single. Well, if you'd read the thread, you'll see I'm single at the moment as a consequence of a decision I made.

Aren't you single too at the moment....

TSY.
Damn !. You got me......
😆

Single and I don't know why.
Could anyone tell me where I'm going wrong?

Ah. The mighty elfin.

Welcome Troll.

QuakesNOT !***

You are good for a laugh though. I'm laughing now
😆

After your next ban, perhaps your next forum ID can be Mr Contrarian.

😆

[i]Single and I don't know why.
Could anyone tell me where I'm going wrong[/i]

Ask Elfin the Troll.

He is here to impose his morals and ethical codes on us all.
😉

Hello peeps - my ears have been burning - what's been going on??

Rachel

As for being single. Well, if you'd read the thread, you'll see I'm single at the moment as a consequence of a decision I made.

Can't be bothered trawling through all that; seems like you really want to put your point across and appear all intelligent and knowledgeable but there's just a central core of you imagining all women (or certainly the ones you encounter) chase rainbows and are then disappointed. Your posts are more about you voicing your perceptions of women than any real facts. And those perceptions seem to be stained with resentment and anger. The problem lies elsewhere, not within yourself, in your world.

And you seem to lack the ability to read between the lines, look at the hidden picture.

Ask Elfin the Troll.

He is here to impose his morals and ethical codes on us all.

Nope. It';s up to you if you want to be wrong, I can't stop you. Merely pointing out the truth. Which you can't handle, obviously.

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Probbly cos yer too busy blaming everyone else for your own failures.

And you seem to lack the ability to read between the lines, look at the hidden picture.

The irony of that post in the context of a thread discussing the truth behind online dating sites can't be accidental... surely?

guys - having a go at each other isn't exactly going to show you at your best, is it? This has been a really nice thread. Don't spoil it.

Rachel

You can be quiet you Yeti. Too furry.

Hello peeps - my ears have been burning - what's been going on??

Rachel

I think that may have been my fault 😳

Elfin - have you come on this thread just to have an argument?

I'm just here to be an idiot. Not particularly interested in confrontation but I'm sure you'll manage to be 'accidentally' offensive to one of us within the next few posts.

seems so yeti....

FWIW mrsconsequence and i know a huge amount of 30something women who are in exactly the position solo described. so his comments will hit the mark for a lot of people.... although my guess is not many of those wimminz will be reading STW forums!

philconsequence, how do you know so many 30something women?

Coz he's a bar-steward.

my job, mrsconsequences many social groups, and a whole friendship group of 30-34ish year olds in london who are all in the situation that solo describes.

most of them are putting away a bottle of wine a night and its all going to their bellies, constant diets and very public 'new starts'... not really happy with themselves or their situation 🙁 shame cos most of them are lovely people who deserve to be so much happier!

EDIT - and as yeti says... i'm a sexy chap who within 2 minutes of meeting a woman can have her discussing her whole life story... i really should just go back to telling people i'm a gardener or something!

Elfin - have you come on this thread just to have an argument?

Must be my 'Time Of The Month' or something....

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supertramp - ah - Just found your message!! 😳

Rachel (and will always try to remember to put this now!!)

Elfinsafety - LOL! Thanks 🙂

allthegear - don't worry about signing the posts, just add a photo 😉

You want a photo??

Geek here is a ginger cat, for most the day he lays and sleeps, the rest of the time he eats and shits. Is it because he's content in his world or has he excepted he's a ginger and given up hope on finding a mate..

Bean however is a phycotic nut job of a moggy. Always out hunting, sometimes comes back to feed and. Is she content or doing that relentless search for a mate or food. Geek knows his food is there, why hunt for something else when it may taste foul..

I'm sure that Bean has a fair bit of variety and i'm sure some he enjoys some more than others. However! Bean is unpredicatble, she'll bite and scratch when it appears she wants attention, so is she happy in her world. Geek just lays and purrs his way through life.

Nobody tells a cat it needs to have a mate, but it's instinct to find one, at least on occasion.

Humans however are brought up thinking it's an essential part of life to share it with another and this is the source of desperation leading to clouded visions of whom people are when we meet them, giving us the delusion that they are a suitor, no matter how unsuited they are, they stay together through countless arguments and suffer in the uncompatability of each others souls.

Through the yearning and inbuilt desire to not be alone, humans will put themselves through unhappiness as they strive to find a partner, to fit in.

Once people stop trying desperately to find the one, they find it much easier to open up the doors for the one the come along.

Waffle over, if anyone can make sense of that please translate in a positive way as i haven't a clue what i've just gone on about.

x

You want a photo??

but nothing too exciting, you will get yourself in trouble 😆