everybody's pretty mental once you scratch the surface; you just need to find a variety of unhinged that works with yours.
Yep, this pretty much nails it. It's when people become convinced they're totally sane and everyone else has some kind of problem that they're a small step away from dismembering prostitutes and making stuff out of them.
Definitely avoid emotional ones mboy, women can store up a whole load of crazy!
LOL, so can men too BTW!
BTW, you actually chatted to my ex at Swinley last year some time too... Haha.
Single, mainly due to my lifestyle choice.
Being homeless and Jobless aren't massive factors in making a bloke on the cusp of 40 yrs old eligible..or at least so you might think...
It's bizarre really, wherever i wander, the more adventures i have, the more random my life gets, i seem to become someone of interest. With the love and admiration for all things living, my positive outlook, optimistic views. Having the time of day to talk with nice people and to offer help where i can, sharing life through my eyes, etc..
It appears my lack of material things means little to some women and they want to take me in, perhaps to mother me, care for me, maybe just to saturate themselves with my carefree and spiritual calm..
If i was to settle i'd not be alone for long, however i still fear i'd end up with a wrong un again. Torn and damaged i am, still hurting from the last evil spell from the ex. From her i lost my freedom which almost stole my life.
When it's time, that time will be right only then will i be single no more.
Sharki, Happy dating all you seekers of the unknown.
Ha yea I've come across a few emotionally unhinged blokes, but never one that explodes with crazy and are unmanageable like some females (including myself in some bad moods). I think we're wired differently..
Mboy, I chatted to your ex at Swinley?
I've come across a few emotionally unhinged blokes, but never one that explodes with crazy and are unmanageable
tbf, i share an office with someone who researches domestic violence and I wouldn't be in a huge hurry to agree with that, at least based on the things I hear.
sharki, blessed be man. I hope the spell gets banished and your paths are full of possibility.
HeathenWoods that is a very fair point, I'll come back to this in a few weeks once I've started working with male perpetrators of DV... Although, I think I view that kind of explosion different to a female explosion of crazy, perhaps cos females can twist or confuse everything so incredibly that it becomes complicated and scary.
Yes. I think mainly because I can be awkward to talk to and don't do commitment very well.
Hmm, I'd say reality - particularly emotional reality (if there is such a thing) - [i]is[/i] complicated and scary! I tend to find that men simplify it in a way that means they don't have to face up to its complexities until a point comes when fate forces their hand and then -snap- the shit hits the fan. Still, with six billion people in the world, all getting it on in a wild variety of ways, there's always going to be a lot of different perspectives about this 🙂
Hmm I like the way you put it Heathen, maybe that's why men and women do work together.. Men try and simplify any issues a female may be facing (I know Philconsequence does and it helps me a truck load!) and females can somehow guide a male into the complexities a little more so and thus the world is harmonious....
Was last year sometime MrsC, I was chatting to Phil, you got chatting to her briefly.
Hmmm I dont remember any females apart from cinnamon girl.. My memory is horrendous. I was probably focusing on how scared I was bout riding with so many people and not being able to keep up! Ha
Was at the end, munching on the copious amounts of Haribo you guys had brought along with you... 😉
Single? Yes. Through choice? Not really. Happy that way? Not really. Resigned to it? Yes.
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@ Kaesea
I read that.
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CZ. Why resigned to it ?.
I like this thread! I've never been single really cos I was legally a child (@ just turned 17) when I met my OH so have no idea what it would be like. I have a few single friends but that's not through choice, they just don't seem to be able to find someone and with the one, she wants to be with someone but is now so independent she probably scares a few blokes off because they aren't allowed to encroach too much or she gets rid.
Ha ha, have you seen how many lasses have pictures of themselves skydiving on those dating websites? Apparently they also like staying in with a bottle of wine and a dvd, in between jumping out of light aircraft. 😀
[i]Ha ha, have you seen how many lasses have pictures of themselves skydiving on those dating websites? Apparently they also like staying in with a bottle of wine and a dvd, in between jumping out of light aircraft.[/i]
Yes !. I'm not sure what the message is. I've jumped out of a plane, and I like red wine.
However, I'm not sure how attractive as a potential partner that makes me ?.
[i]I like this thread! I've never been single really cos I was legally a child (@ just turned 17) when I met my OH so have no idea what it would be like[/i]
Hopefully you've sorted your feet out ?.
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you just need to find a variety of unhinged that works with yours.
One of the truest things ever written on this site!
Sane people are so flipping boring.
emma82, have you ever wondered what it would be like to live alone, or even regretted never having tried it?
Yes !. I'm not sure what the message is. I've jumped out of a plane, and I'll never have to do anything active again.
emma82, have you ever wondered what it would be like to live alone, or even regretted never having tried it?
or even with someone else?
umm, I'd be lying if I said I hadn't thought about it, or wondered about being with someone else, especially through some of our rough patches but I genuinely think that we have something very special and have grown together as we have gotten older rather than apart as some people who get together young do. I don't for one second think that I would be better throwing it away just to see what happens. The way I see it if I wake up in the morning happy that hubby to be is next to me, albeit probably farting, then I'll put up with the farting and stick with him 🙂 I find it funny that some people get so freaked out by it but I wouldn't change anything, Im a very lucky girl.
p.s. not sure about the feet, I can't smell. Ill have to ask the other half later!
emma82, well done you!
no, don't dump him just to test my theory, casual friendship through a forum is not that important 😉
I often wonder though if people have a 'pairing mode' for a certain stage of their lives, and yours was obviously in sync with someone else. Does it get harder to be a 'significant other' in direct proportion to the amount of time spent alone?
Single? Nope- married with two kids. It means i eat a lot better than i used to but i dont get to ride anywhere near as often as id like!
(Maybe that'll change when the kids sod off to school!).
Emma82.
I'm sure your feet will be fine. It was just a contextural remark.
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Charlie.
What in all that is good, are you saying ?.
Acutally, ignore my Q.
I can't be 4rsed to know.
Just so long as you're happy dude 😉
Single.
Why? Well it's a long story but there's been a lot of change in my life and, to be honest, I really don't think I could have coped with being in a relationship through it all - would have been nice on occasion though...
Bit bored of it now.
Rachel
[i]Bit bored of it now.[/i]
Oh yeah ?. What you gonna do about it then.....
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If my experience of online dating is anything to go by.
I'd save you the trouble.
From my perspective theres "slim pickings" in Norfolk.
lolol - yeah, I can imagine!!
I'll make a proper effort soon enough - God help the residents of Norwich lol
Rachel
The thing is, I think I'm kinda starting to like being single, though. I never used to have any issues before so I'm not used to this!!
Hey !.
I live in Norwich.
Didn't I once forward to you an iDave file ?.
[i]The thing is, I think I'm kinda starting to like being single[/i]
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iDave file?? no - but maybe I need it! lol
I live in KL but know lots of people in Norwich so go out there a lot. Including Friday when I saw the fab Dove and Boweevil in Olive's...
HHmmm.
I did send out a fair few copies, and its not the sort of thing I'd commit to memory.
Any decent trails up there ?. Bit of a trek, the A47 isn't the greatest road ever.
Yup I'm single. Is it a lifestyle choice? Er... kinda. I meet plenty of ladies I'd like to date, but who are either not single themselves or aren't interested in a speccy ginger. But on the other hand, there's no way I want to be in a relationship; I got messed up pretty bad a few years back 🙁
Does anyone want to buy my dating profile?
It's pretty awesome... £100 or a case of decent Rioja.
I would rather pull my own balls of with a boa constrictor,
than date any of the nut jobs who I have had the chance to be with so far.
Single ❓ , I am sane 💡 enough said ❗
[i]I got messed up pretty bad a few years back[/i]
Sorry to read that, but that is kinda the way this stuff can go.
Better to cry than never laugh and all that.
LoL @ Kaesae.
You're not happy about something. I can tell you know 😉
Better to cry than never laugh and all that.
Indeed! And at least I can look back at that particular adventure and laugh at bits of it, like how on Earth did I get myself in that situation in the first place!
Does anyone want to buy my dating profile?
Come on then TSY, show us all!!
Rachel
EDIT - (so hope I don't get seduced by the TSY's smooth talking...)
TSY.
Won't your profile come with a bit of [i]baggage[/i]
After all, by your own admission, you seem to have been quite busy in the past with the ladies on said website ?....
Perhaps you should be paying someone to take your dating profile from you.
Kinda like toxic waste disposal or something.
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I'm not showing my profile on here, they'll just copy it and then where will I be?
Kit... happy to give you a discount, maybe a half-decent case of Rioja.
I'm busy later so be quick or you'll just have to wait until tomorrow.
Solo I am a very easy going happy guy, my life is not easy but it is good. That said I have a wicked sense of humour and I love to laugh!
Having recently been with someone who I was friends with before hand, I have had to except that most people are not complete inside, this makes them restless and unhappy.
If I told you about all the shit that I went through for love, you would more likely than not get a right good laugh, however I have learnt that sometimes the only course of action is not to fight the current battle or conflict, but to withdraw and choose your fiture battles and conflicts more wisely!
One day I will hopefully find my love and meet my children, but it is not this day 😀
I'm not showing my profile on here, they'll just copy it and then where will I be?
sure you're not just scared we'll all start stalking you??
