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I rode for 50 miles with a flat when I met Druidh.


 
Posted : 20/01/2012 3:56 pm
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Yes, I am friendly but women might consider me dirty old man ... if I keep smiling at them.


 
Posted : 20/01/2012 3:57 pm
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Can't be too friendly in the hood

http://www.halifaxcourier.co.uk/news/local/why_the_body_butchers_came_to_halifax_1_4162901


 
Posted : 20/01/2012 3:59 pm
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I'm slightly autistic, not very good in social situations, I can't make eye contact when talking to some one and I can't do small talk. I can follow a lead but it tends to end pretty quickly if left up to me.

I try to over compensate sometimes I can come across as being a bit weird or too friendly. I can't help it. If I didn't I'd sit in the corner and not talk to anyone.

I like to think I'm a friendly person.


 
Posted : 20/01/2012 4:00 pm
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I really don't like meeting new people, and find social situations very awkward, so I almost certainly come across as a bit of an arse to start with.

I love helping people out though, and will offer to help fix friends bikes, help people off trains with baggage, give up my seat for people etc.

My ex probably doesn't think I'm friendly, but I'd like to think that most other people do.


 
Posted : 20/01/2012 4:01 pm
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i'd go as far as saying a friendly person will be good at making those who struggle in new social situations feel comfortable 🙂


 
Posted : 20/01/2012 4:03 pm
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Painfully shy IRL

I think we [i]all[/i] are when we're young.

That certainly described me, and I grew a somewhat arrogant shell to cover that up in my 20s. Now that I'm a lot older, have achieved a good few things, have kids etc, I've got the confidence that I don't necessarily need people to like me, nor to put up with them if I don't like them.

The arrogance has gone though, which has to be a good thing. People I've known for decades but only bump into every four or five years tell me that I'm a lot nicer/friendlier than I used to be.


 
Posted : 20/01/2012 4:22 pm
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Today at Asda i had the smiliestist checkout chick in the world, she commented and giggled at every item i had.


 
Posted : 20/01/2012 4:32 pm
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Up yours Rasta geek.As the Russians say,"Only the madman smiles all the time".


 
Posted : 20/01/2012 8:21 pm
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The british are a very friendly bunch, as the world has learnt from the past and our current behaviour.

It's the best way to get people to drop their guard, so we can give them one! innit ❓


 
Posted : 21/01/2012 5:05 pm
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Yes.
I've always been known as 'Smiler' at work and in cycling. Always the first to go back and bring the slow or new folk home. Happy to give people the benefit of the doubt (probably why I got taken for tens of thousands in my business)

Though if I meet a nasty person! of if someone thinks that they can take advantage of my nature they'll get a shock or more, as can be vouched for.


 
Posted : 21/01/2012 5:14 pm
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Hopefully most people find me freindly, some dont, some totally dislike me.

Who cares


 
Posted : 21/01/2012 5:15 pm
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I am 😀

Can't believe the misery guts on here. No wonder you stay on a forum but it has helped me understand that there are some misery guts that I stay away from.

Oldgit - totally agree, just because you're happy doesn't mean you are stupid, so be happy and stay assertive!


 
Posted : 21/01/2012 5:32 pm
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Druidh - If only I'd known a puncture was all it took... GT tomorrow?


 
Posted : 21/01/2012 5:43 pm
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I have a decently wide circle of friends who seem to have stayed with me for years, even decades in some cases. I assume that makes me friendly!


 
Posted : 21/01/2012 5:43 pm
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Used to be reasonably so but now very much lacking confidence in social situations so can be interpreted as 'weird'. Getting used to it. 🙁


 
Posted : 21/01/2012 5:46 pm
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Have good friends but I find social interaction beyond a few hours quite difficult and tiring. Chattiness is not in my genetic make-up so the best I can hope for is not-completely-unapproachable 🙂

(EDIT - also, I don't hug people. Society seems to view me with surprise and suspicion because I'm a female who doesn't hug others.. must not be friendly)


 
Posted : 21/01/2012 5:50 pm
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no


 
Posted : 21/01/2012 5:57 pm
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Friendly enough to anyone I decide to be friendly to. I can't say I have any desire to be liked that much by more than a few people on this earth.


 
Posted : 21/01/2012 5:58 pm
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When I'm in the mood for it ! Probably smiley 87% of the time actually.

I also like being a grumpy get, that also pleases me, being over 40 and attained the right of passgage to feel smug and comfortable with who I am and my place in the world. A good old moan is ace ! Invariably makes others laugh at me anyway, so everyones a winner!

think I'll just up my % to 95 !


 
Posted : 21/01/2012 6:26 pm
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My default mode is friendly and trusting, and I guess I smile more than the average person. I'd find it more hardwork to be an arse and a grump. That said, I'm not graced with the capacity for ongoing smalltalk or extended discussion of subjects that do not interest me, and generally prefer my own company.


 
Posted : 21/01/2012 6:27 pm
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It's nice to be nice, and that's nice.

However, I can't stand: rudeness, one sided conversations, falseness, women who think friendly is flirty and send out deflective signals, people who make you make the effort in a first impressions situation (friends of friends who take the aloof stance) and those just waiting for their turn to speak.

I hug freely, shake firmly and think eye contact is important. Sideyface air kisses feel all fake to me, but they're quite popular 😐

I think we get what we give socially. Do unto others etc.


 
Posted : 21/01/2012 7:53 pm
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not sure really, have to ask the fools that seem to like riding with me and the newbs I take out that keep coming back for more. I think aggressively cheerful sums me up.


 
Posted : 21/01/2012 7:59 pm
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Ish.


 
Posted : 21/01/2012 8:01 pm
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wot kind of question is this ? wot does it matter if we are friendly or not...no im so unfriendly cos people take the mickey outa my spelling now begger off before i turn into the incredible Hulk !!!!!!! 😉 :mrgreen:


 
Posted : 21/01/2012 8:04 pm
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Think I am,well try to be.Even said hello to that Tazzy fella the other week,even though he wasn't on a proper MTB...... 😉


 
Posted : 21/01/2012 8:12 pm
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*blows kiss at emac65 and his dinky wheels and gear dangler* 😀


 
Posted : 21/01/2012 8:51 pm
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LOL,You forgot suspension fore & aft though .....Tis only 63mm at the back though.... 🙂


 
Posted : 21/01/2012 8:54 pm
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🙂


 
Posted : 21/01/2012 8:56 pm
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Friendly if we have things in common but im not great at small talk or first time introductions

Getting better though - its part of my job


 
Posted : 21/01/2012 8:59 pm
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I'm slightly sandoffish until i get to know someone.
Then i'd do anything i possibly could to help them.
Not keen on falsely friendly people though.


 
Posted : 21/01/2012 9:09 pm
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? that would make you false abit then wouldnt it singlespeedstu = you say you are standoffish till you get to know someone.... why be like that ? 😉


 
Posted : 21/01/2012 9:41 pm
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Never saw him as standoffish ... Possibly because we were drunk riding singlespeeds in aviemore


 
Posted : 21/01/2012 9:50 pm
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I'm friendly, but often find it difficult around people I don't know, especially if there's no context. This comes across to others as grumpy and distant. I'm getting better with age and on reflection must have been awful when I was younger.

I'm also quite intolerant toward unthinking and irrational people.


 
Posted : 21/01/2012 9:53 pm
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that would make you false abit then wouldnt it singlespeedstu

No. It'd make me someone that doesn't get taken in by bullshiners. 😉

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Never saw him as standoffish

That's because you didn't come across as a BS merchant.
Well that and the fact that i'd already riden most of a 100K event with you. 😆


 
Posted : 21/01/2012 9:55 pm
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Apperances can be deceptive eh ?


 
Posted : 21/01/2012 9:59 pm
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yep.
Now i know you a bit betterer i realise what a **** you really are. 😆


 
Posted : 21/01/2012 10:02 pm
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(EDIT - also, I don't hug people. Society seems to view me with surprise and suspicion because I'm a female who doesn't hug others.. must not be friendly)

I'm with you on this one. Can't stand hugging, especially when you hardly know each other. What's that all about? 😕 Same goes for air kisses. 👿


 
Posted : 21/01/2012 10:48 pm
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Definitely friendly and treat others the same until they are not deserving of 'friendliness'.

I have been told it is very obvious when I don't like someone, even though I may be trying to hide it but it doesn't bother me, why should it?


 
Posted : 22/01/2012 1:11 am
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Yeah, I hope so, I want to be. That's all you can do I suppose. I can be very independent and like my own company as well though. And I'm not the best at communicating when I need or want a friend around.


 
Posted : 22/01/2012 1:30 am
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mainly but i dont mind being alone and dont for chit chat or talk to folk I dont like dont pretend very much even at work
Also not a fan of air kissing complete strangers seems a but middle class to me...I call them showbiz kisses.
Dont mind hugging and kissing friends or family,


 
Posted : 22/01/2012 1:32 am
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No [s]t a fan of[/s] air kissing. [s]complete strangers[/s] seems [s] a bit middle class[/s] stupid to me


 
Posted : 22/01/2012 1:38 am
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SSstu has always been a welcoming friendly bloke, never come across as standoffish to me, like trailrat most of our meetings have involved silly bikes or lots of booze though


 
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