[Closed] Anyone just given up on finding love?

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Yeah - ^ that's pretty much it!! LOL

I think I have counted 3 (not read every post) apparently single females who have posted on this thread, assuming they are not actually TJ, why not see if they would like to go cycling with you.

You never know the common interest may be just the start.

steelisreal - Member

Pathetic.
I flipped on to this forum to help pass the time with thoughts of riding.

You're wasting your time and more importantly mine.
Grow a pair and get out there.

As an active girl, I have found in the past that being active is a negative for a lot of guys. They want a girl who looks like a Barbie doll - most active outdoor type girls don't, and shock horror, we have muscle definition.

My ideal girl, built for speed, not comfort... 😀

I grew up around gyms, am lucky that I carry very little body fat, most of my friends hate me (in a love ya really kinda way) because I don't need to find another 20bhp out of my bikes to be able to keep up.
I can clear the Columbia shop of the stuff that "normal people" can't fit in to and get bargains elsewhere too 😛
I detest bleached blonde, GHD'd, dyed,, falseness.
Any girl who trains will turn my head long before a barbie doll will.
As for finding love? after my 19yr relationship ending earlier this year - I'm enjoying myself.

What happened? you sack her off for brushing her hair???

Rachel (wondering if it's really "in a love ya really kinda way")

*thinks about applying to hammyuk's personal ad*

Lol @ Rachel.
Got tired of looking at someone with stunning, thick , naturally wavy hair who dyed, tied, straightened it, etc because that's how her "best friend forever" looked.
Should've thought about that a bit more when she complained I never complimented her.... 😀

I'm going to regret this, Im sure. Don't be too cruel...

The pink hair thing (done for Norwich Pride tomorrow...)

Rachel (thinking I might actually have to start wearing make-up now)

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WOW - but looking gorgeous as always Rach 🙂

Pink hair, you do look good with it, nice leopard print background as well.

Won't lose you in the beer tent either 😉

Being all girly and dainty-like....

The last thing I am in a beer tent is dainty...

Rachel's next haircut?

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allthegear - Member
The last thing I am in a beer tent is dainty.

Well I was trying to be nice 😆

FS! Careful what you wish for boy.. There is nothing better parking your bike after a hard days ride in an empty kitchen/ dining (with no dining table and sh*t like that) / or even in a living room if you live in a flat .. And just throwing your dirty bag, shoes and socks away in the floor without the care in the world.. ...or even just waking up one weekend and the sun smiling down by your window telling you to ride up as it promise to shine on you all day instead of any domesticated sh*t that are norm these days... If you know how to cook, wash dishes and clothes on your own or you have somebody to do it for you.. What d f@ck you complaining about?

😀

I'm pretty sure I held the world record for messing up a flat during my first marriage. I got back from playing paintball in the world cup in France, dumped my bag on the lounge floor and proceeded to unpack it in front of my ex-wife to get to the present I'd bought for her.

She was happy with the gift, but rather less so when she realised that I had put dirty, filthy kit and paintballs all over the lounge floor.

Did I mention we got divorced?

Anyway, I know what you mean about finding it hard to find "The One", but sometimes it just creeps up on you. For now, don't worry about it and just get on with enjoying life and cycling. Sod what everyone else is doing and enjoy it.

Rachel, _AWESOME_ hair!

That is awesome hair Rachel! 😀

As for the op, I wasn't looking for anyone and didn't fancy the Mrs at all when we first met, but we hit it off and just chatted each others ears off, I then started fancying her as a person as she was cool and funny and had a daft sense of humour. Then she changed her look over the months and flippin' eck, lust central was upon me! 🙂
I'm no looker so I thought she was well out of my league and no chance there, so just carried on being matey. Well one night she jumped me! (judgement was never a strong point of hers! ;D) And bingo, we've been together for 15years or so.
We've both changed looks wise over those years, (I keep getting folks saying to me how beautiful she is and I know I've not aged for the better!) so not just because of her exterior vision, but also because she's my best mate, I fancy her more now than ever and as much as we like going out and doing stuff together, I'm just as happy snuggling up on the sofa watching telly because that link with her is what the relationship is about. Which is cool because when we're to old to be throwing ourselves at the scenery for fun we'll still be having giggles on the sofa laughing at our daft in jokes. And I'll still fancy her like rotten.
Don't give up on the idea, but don't go desperately chasing some vision of ultimate beauty either, that will change/fade/suffer from changing fashions but the person you get on with will be the constant through all that.
Also consider that you may not be top drawer material yourself and that others may also judge you by your own high standards! Would you go out with yourself? I'm not sure I would with me (obviously the sex would be fabulous ;D but by jingo I can be a nob sometimes! )
Aim for being happy, flexible and out doing things that you enjoy. Opportunities will present themselves, and you won't have to put up with arseholes/nutters etc. 😀

tinsy - Member
I think I have counted 3 (not read every post) apparently single females who have posted on this thread, assuming they are not actually TJ, why not see if they would like to go cycling with you.

You never know the common interest may be just the start.

Who? Now I'm thinking of the female version of TJ *shudder* ( and no, that was not the good shudder)

Thanks Rachel! Excellent!

That's cool Rachel 🙂

My wife has s very similar style but in red.

I won't post pictures of her face 'cos she's shy but here she is with her recent tattoo;

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she has to cover the tattoo at work as she's a deputy head but the hair's just who she is - it was like this when we got married 18 years ago.

After going through a separation, I reckoned I would stay away from long-term relationships for a while. I was 30 and thought it would be great just to be single. After only a few weeks, I met a girl through a friend, something clicked and we started dating. That was 25 years ago and we are still together.

I think it helps if you are (a) not looking and (b) not looking needy.

OP,

Stop looking - and it will inevitably happen!

Oh - and stop drinking this shit.

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You may think it makes you look cool, sophisticated and interesting but it really just marks you out as a pretentious dork.

I love Pimms and I also love Snowballs.

I have given up, I try to get enthused and think I should start trawling dating sites but I have learned a few things that just make the small talk and chat a bit tiresome

1) men my age (41) seem to be looking for something much younger - so does that mean I should be looking for someone much older (but then I want someone who is fit and can keep up with me - so that narrows the field down)

2) admitting to having four children makes men run away faster that anything else I know - maybe they mistake 'yes I have 4' with 'yes I need you to become dad and provider for my four children' when they ask if I have children.

Some of my friends say I shouldnt mention them - but they are not something I am ashamed of or believe I should hide

I guess they do complicate issues and mean I am very busy at times, so I have pretty much put myself on the shelf. It is upsetting though as I think most people just want someone to unwind with at the end of the day

I hold a glimmer of hope that when the last has fledged the nest and I set off riund the world on my bike I will bump into some like minded soul and pedal happily ever after

Edit and I drink Pimms - so there really is no hope

I know what you mean, adjustablewrench, I just can't quite pluck up the enthusiasm for the dating sites. Tried it a couple of times but get tired of the generic nature of the people I seemed to find there.

Now finding I'm happier to just kind of spend a bit of time learning to be me again. The happier I am in myself, the more comfortable others seem to be becoming with me. 🙂

The hair is just another one of those things I *had* to do to find me...

Rachel

Being true to yourself is always important - even if you do lose sight of what that is occasionally it is crucial that you always take the time to find you again. And there is an added bonus with your hair as you have found yourself looking great 🙂

I am happy - and cringe slightly when I read my outpouring on the previous post!

Just the Friday night feeling of not having the energy to go out and be actively sociable - and missing there being someone around to 'just be' with.

Will woman the f up and go to the gym

men my age (41) seem to be looking for something much younger - so does that mean I should be looking for someone much older

I just went 5 years either side of my age

As for kids mention them its not like they wont be the most important part of your life

I see mine most weekends so that makes things complicated but it is not negotiable
It is harder than when we were younger - then again I guess fewer of us are single and we dont all go down the pub at the weekend

As for Pimms you are on your own there and I can offer no help or advice

Rachael good to see you find yourself and your feet. given your scenario I doubt it is any easier for you but at least you have found/are finding you.

Firstly you have to be comfortable with yourself, secondly don't see everyone you meet as a potential partner; the rest should follow. Eventually. Possibly... 8)

Ha ha true - a good way to spot ones to avoid. But the age issue is also made worse by the fact that loads lie about their age anyway.

I guess its the same in real life, but it just makes the whole thing a bit more ridiculous when you cant even be straight from the start.

I am happy to admit my age - it doesn't bother me, and to be fair I get complimented on not looking my age (but I think this is because lots of women who admit to being in their early 40s are actually in their early 50s - so I probably do look good next to them! 🙂 )

I think more direct dating sites should exist

Female
Brunette
5'6"
Mother of 4
Keen rider of bikes
Camps
Reads
Cooks
Can be forgetful
Grumpy if I dont get enough
Tells bad jokes
Tries to accept that there are many ways to skin a cat (but knows mine is the best way really)

What more do you need to know? And when they ask what are you lookibg for in someine else - well someone who can cope/get involved/tolerate the above qualities and hopefully share some mutual physical attraction with

See it seems so easy in principle 🙂

My penis won't let me

Grumpy if I dont get enough

My penis won't let me

I feel a problem being solved...

Wont let you what?!

Firstly you have to be comfortable with yourself

Bugger 🙁

Do something about it, Jamie!! Whatever it is, no matter what the consequences - sort it!

Rachel

Do something about it, Jamie!! Whatever it is, no matter what the consequences - sort it!

I think I might try something more achievable....like nailing fog to the wall.

Cheers,

Danny B.

And there's me thinking that I drink Pimms because I like the taste of it. How wrong I was

And there's me thinking that I drink Pimms because I like the taste of it. How wrong I was

**** 'em, Houns.

I drink Toffee Apple cider, and I'm sure that's against some hipster rule.

They can tear my refreshing and fruity beverage from my cold dead hands.

Ha ha - I've got to try this direct thing! 🙂

Female
Pink-ette (temporarily, I think!)
6'2"
Mother of 0, Godmother of 2
Enthusiastic but ultimately useless rider of bikes
Camps
Reads
Cooks
Is often forgetful
Grumpy if I dont get enough
Has unreasonably last minute ideas and wanders off into sunset for adventures
Follows heart, not head, in most things
Has some amazing, if diverse, friends
Signs-off posts on STW

Rachel

That profile needs to be accompanied by a pic of you in
1. fancy dress
2. Soft focus professional ish quality from at least a decade ago
3. Pulling a face pissed up in a pub

Apparently blokes takes pictures of them with their cars 😯

FWIW riding ones dont attract much attention IME 😉

Lots of unfit looking women go the gym a lot as well
yes its not easy as folk try to sell themselves and if you do something honest like that it would look out of place

Its weird its like writing a CV about how awesome you are whilst listing all the qualities you want from someone - as if you have this list in the real world
I was ok up to this point

Tries to accept that there are many ways to skin a cat (but knows mine is the best way really)

I think I might try something more achievable....like nailing fog to the wall.

Don't bother trying water-based adhesive; I've tried, it doesn't work.

@Houns - I don't think you are allowed to 'just like' something round here - everything is a reflection of you and your personality traits/flaws you should know that by now . . . Did you forget which forum you were on 🙂

male
shoulder length hair - going grey but not that obviosuly
5'9"
Father of 2
Enthusiastic rider and fettler of bikes - there are no carpets downstairs in my house 😉 [ its not plain floorboards either
Camps- i love camping
Does not read - i awlays think that is bit like going i am moron but really I just dont enjoy it
Cooks
Is unreliably forgetful 😳 annoying that
Copes ok without geting any but really would prefer to be getting some
Has problems sticking to one idea at a time and wanders in thought and action
Follows head, not heart, in most things
Has some diverse,if not frankly bonkers friends
does not sign of post but if he did it would be copy and pasted and spelt incorrectly