[Closed] Any regrets in life ?

Not having the courage to say how how I felt about someone, her moving on, then me not believing her when she said she wanted to make a go of it....

Then again I may not have gotten into cycling / surfing as much, every cloud eh. 😀

Too many regrets too mention and I would LOVE to be able to turn the clock back as my instincts were (almost always) right at the time and I should have followed them instead of 'doing the right thing'.

But life goes on and who really [b]needs[/b] lots of money anyway 😉

But life goes on and who really needs lots of money anyway

After rejoining the rat-race six years ago, I too am wondering that...

(although I do have a nice bike now)

Not buying that complete kart outfit and going racing.

Not having more kids (nothing else in my life matters but my beautiful girls).

Not becoming a plumber and being my own boss / own business - became a lawyer instead (eventually) and hate it.....but I am working on changing that....I have finally managed to stop regretting and now look forward to what CAN be not what wasnt to be.

killing that hooker in the quarry

Not being able to pick my parents.

Yep and if I could have my life all over again, I would live it very differently. I know one shouldn't look back but I do and feel I've made a right mess of it. 🙁

I regret having ever smoked

oh and numerous women I could have had some fun with if only I'd had the balls to dump the one I was with at the time rather than wait for them to do it.

I know one shouldn't look back but I do and feel I've made a right mess of it.

Edit: That sounds really naff and soundbitey but hopefully you know what I mean 😉

Woody - no sense of direction I'm afraid! Coupled with being a weak person and having huge self-esteem issues all my life.

Funny thing is, and this could be me wearing my middle-aged hat, I feel more comfortable with myself now. Womens logic innit? 🙄

One biggie springs to mind: Missing out on Sarah from HR. She gave me a lift home after a work's night out only to find the wife was there (we were seperated at the time). That would've been a good night.

That strikes a chord CG in some ways and I still don't feel I've really got any direction. I'm way too old and have no desire to progress along any career path as I'm happy doing what I do and would hate to be stuck in an office again.

I do regret two things - not going straight to uni after school (it's much harder when you are older but still easier than I thought) and leaving a good job with an oil company to chase big bucks as a ship/oil rig broker just before the oil price crashed - timing has never been my strong point 😆

Stupidly not taking up an invite from the delightful Lindsay L to accompany her to a Uni ball - this was the 3rd year and I'd secretly fancied her since the 1st year.

Not doing as well as I should have done in my A Levels - though a significant part of that was due to appalling teaching. A Levels seem to set the course for which uni, which course and possibly your first couple of job opportunities.

Actually must stop thinking about regrets otherwise I will get depressed about what could have been.

I regret... quite a lot. I never used to, thought that life wasn't about regrets. But in reality it just doesn't work out like that.

There are a couple of things I wished I had done, a couple I wish I had done much sooner and a couple that I wish I had never done. I think that everyone is much the same though, and really there is no point in dwelling on the regrets as you can't go back and change things.

Since we can only influence the future that is the part of life worth concentrating on. Even if we sometimes have to deal with emotions of the past in order to move on and put the past right where it belongs.

What could have been... what would have been... pretty meaningless... what can be and will be are far more worthwhile to think about.

regrets

I've had a few

but then again, too few to mention

sorry, someone had to say it 😉

2 really.
not trying for kids when we were young enough, but the choice was bringing them up in a shitty area.

and an ex. There's always that one, isn't there? but it would probably have ended in tears, it already had, a few times, with her...

I regret the hurt I caused to so many people through drug abuse.
I regret that I had such poor control of my temper which led to someone getting very badly hurt.
I regret being so wrapped up in my own little world that the one person who needed me at that time was left without support and killed themselves

I regret pretending to believe in god for ages

That's all

South African model, Kitzbuhel, 2003. There's still a photo somewhere I can't bring myself to get rid of.

not working harder at school - I was bright but lazy. I feel sorry for my parents seeing the potential there but watching me chuck it away.

not being a better friend.

That said, I'm happy now, and have ended up here due to all the other screw ups, and in balance life is pretty ace.

🙂

Not doing as well as I should have done in my A Levels - though a significant part of that was due to appalling teaching. A Levels seem to set the course for which uni, which course and possibly your first couple of job opportunities

But then you would never have net the lovely Lindsay L

Smoking, should never have taken that up

Debt, namely credit cards

Putting weight on

Letting depression take hold to the point where i've lost my sense of humour and constantly appear to be sarcastic, bitter, quick to judge, negative etc etc (wish i could get that under control)

I should have told her how i felt and not let her go

Letting my lack of confidence hold me back from ever doing anything

.......christ, finding an upside has never been harder

CG - if you're not suziblue from another forum, well, ... you should be - your stories are remakably similar. Isn't there some way you can look back and just say, "Oh well" 🙂

It's not surprising that most of the posts here involve either not sleeping with those pesky bi-sexual Swedish triplets, being unable to hold onto THE-ONE, or not not leaving the person who you thought was THE-ONE whilst THE-ONE got away. It's the human condition.

Tazzy - you had a diseased mind - foggedaboudit. Wait, fohgetaboutit, whatever - you weren't yersel'.

For those still in the midst of it, please remember to think positive - not a platitude - a real way of dealing with the bad ol' crap that can and will mess with yer mind.

My unceasing and ongoing regrets would fill teh internets but I know I'll be walking my dog on a windswept beach tomorrow, so I can handle them 😀

My regrets - that I didn't play rugby more seriously.

Yes, I regret giving up rugby. All because the dentist said I needed a gumshield. 15 year olds can be such twerps.

Capt.Kronos - good post there.

tazzy - you've turned your life around, it must have been extremely tough for you so keep looking forward. Stay positive. 🙂

user-removed - no, this is the only Forum I frequent rather too, er, frequently! The past doesn't get me down, just feel at times it's sitting on my shoulder.

As many of the above, there have been a few times where I have taken the moral high grounds and missed out on dead certs.
Helen certainly is worth a mention -sigh-

Otherwise no really big regrets, life's too short innit?

Really regret not trying harder - be it school / college / sport / the guitar.

But then things have turned out okay, I have my health.

At the time i regretted getting my then girlfriend now wife pregnant at Uni in '94.........soon realised it was the best thing I've ever done. We're both still under 40, daughters are now 18 and 16, good fun watching same aged mates running round the beer garden/campsite after their toddlers as me and the mrs sit down and have a good chat and laught with our daughters (who also go the bar for us!)

No real regrets, I guess I'm lucky (or very unsensitive and thick skinned!)
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Just the one major regret.

But there's nowt I can do about it now.

I wish I'd asked out the pretty, fit, mountain-biking, fun Kiwi girl out instead of deciding that North London was too far to pursue anything. Tw*t.

Alot and being born.....

Not fitting the finger protector in the conservatory door, that ended up with my son having his finger tip stitched back on today. Mrs Donkey did warn me!

I regret marrying someone before we really understood how different our 'Principles' were.
I don't regret the fact I have lovely kids from that marriage
but do regret not having kids with someone I can respect.

I recently traced my life backwards via all my major events and decisions, and came to the the realisation that there were three distinct turning points in my life (or more specifically 'forks') where I unusually had a clear choice of two paths. Both paths at each junction would lead me off to a different 'life'.

Now in my 40th year, I'm *fairly* sure I chose unwisely at all three junctions.

There are probably billions of other decisions I ever made, but those three whoppers really ****ed me over.

Still. Live 'n' learn, eh?

Regret turning down my dream job in the RAF for a girl.

Regret losing 'the one'

Shoulda, coulda, woulda the last words of a fool 🙁

My biggest regret? Well not really a regret 'cos I had fun doing it, but joining the TA at 24 rather than working on the bike..

"I coulda been a contender.." (In my dreams!)

Not real regrets I suppose but I've been to so many beautiful places in this world without the Mrs through work and biking and always find myslef wishing she was with me, she thinks I'm a right f***y for saying that tho haha!

That after two years of physical and verbal abuse, I didn't wrap the cricket bat round my teachers head after I smacked him in the balls with it 😳
That I didn't go to a decent school,