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Did the teacher tell your child not to tell you?
She didn't tell her not to, she said she didn't have to.
Year 3. A lot less stressful than Y6, but stressful enough for half term to be a relief. Can't wait until next year as last year and this I've seemingly had to teach the Y2 and Y3 new curriculum to my class. Or maybe next year it'll be worse as I won't have them not doing the new curriculum in Y2 as an excuse!
We become a primary the year after next (currently a lower school) I'm angling for a move to Y5.
Give us a sitrep on the pudding factor.
Yeah, as it stands we gap fill Year 3 and 4 with the hope of teaching the 5/6 curriculum this term.
Not much fun st all at the minute. At least we have the parents questioning our ability to teach to cheer us up 😉
She didn't tell her not to, she said she didn't have to.
Well, did she have to? If the school were not worried about the incident then why would she have to tell you?
I think you're mistaking don't have to for don't.
To be honest most of the parents at our school aren't too bothered. Makes these type of scenarios rare, but brings in lots of other problems!
No I am not Mosey. No 6 yr old should be taught that there are things that they can decide they don't need to tell their parents about. There should be no secrets.
If the teacher had told her *not* to tell us then I would have been whole world more furious.
I would be more worried about the fact that your daughter is choosing to take more notice of her teacher (you don't have to tell your parents) than you (please tell us).
Edit. In general, you should worry about stuff less. It only gets harder as they get older.
Edit edit. Just realised I have said be more worried, then worry about stuff less. Funny what beer does to your logic.
What do you actually want her to tell you?
I don't see any point where the teacher has told your daughter this?
You've decided it without speaking to the teacher.
All the time we say to the children "next time I'll have to speak to your parents." They often reply "do I have to tell them?" We reply "well that's up to you."
It's not a secret, it's nothing. They obviously we're not concerned at school or they'd have told you!
Mosey had it "I think you're mistaking don't have to for don't."
Unfortunately there is some mistaking of "we're" for "were" ripe for a backlash against us fellow teachers.
Let's all go ride our bikes in the woods, I'm about to.
Enjoy half term everyone. OP - Please stop posting up that the teacher needs her arse kicking, after asking if there are any primary teachers here for friendly useful advice about your daughter being accused of being a bully.
The bottom line is your daughter is 6, she should tell you everything, regardless of [u]any[/u] other adults comment. You are the parent. Putting the blame on your daughters action on someone else is missing the real point of your frustration.
So child A allegedly said something. And is now telling parents she doesn't have to tell what it was because teacher said she didn't have to.
Teacher is being blamed and having their professionality questioned on the say so of child A.
Meanwhile all the children have forgotten what it was all about.
autocorrect is to blame for the were, we're situation above.
I'm to blame for the lack of a capital above.
My wife is in tears but all I see is [b]a bunch of adults needing to get over themselves and accept we are talking about 6 yr olds.[/b]Still think the teacher needs her arse kicking though.
I think the OP has the partial solution already for the parents involved .. apart from the kicking the NQTs arse.