There’s a lot in your posting that says you still want the relationship to work, Mandrake.
Yup. This is clear as day to me.
She's given him his marching orders. Yet she's still "the GF" not "the ex-GF."
So, roll on 6 months...
I've bought a house (took an age to get an offer accepted and is taking an age to go through) it's 10 mins walking distance from the boys though which is ideal for me, I wanted it to feel like they could be in walking distance not thrown into a car and driven for miles everytime they came over
The arguments have continued to get worse, I'm often asked to leave the house mid argument and not come back till 10,11pm which I hate as I just end up sat around the local town kicking my heels, even though they're open the pub is best kept out of
We're getting towards the pointy end with petty threats being thrown, having to pay the 20% extra child maintenance for collect and pay is one which I don't think they would actually do as long as the correct amount and standing order is set up (which it will be) plus she'll lose the 4% on her side
We argued all weekend as I struggle to deal with one of the lads on Saturday morning (teething) I tried every trick I knew but still couldn't comfort him so just found it really frustrating - which was painted across my face, but it's just hard sometimes.
I'm looking forward to a new start, I'm chasing solicitors daily but still have about 8 weeks of horribleness to get through first.
Thanks to those who've PMd apologies if I've not got back, just feeling a bit insular at times
Sounds unpleasant at the moment but at least there's progress. It sounds like the new house will be great - not too far but also not just round the corner. Good luck.
it takes a while, but it does get a lot better. Pay your maintenance and do as much as you can as often and you can with the children. Time will take care of everything else.
Good luck