We didn't want to know - it seems that those who do find out can't understand why you wouldn't and vice versa! Everyone seemed to think we were having a boy and we got a very feisty pretty little girl!
I don't understand the wanting a surprise thing, it's not like you get to choose at the scan. You're just getting your surprise early.
It's like getting your surprise early so you can spend lots of money on things you don't need which have gender leanings and have a small but not insignificant chance that the hospital got it wrong anyway! 😉
Don't find out or if you do don't tell anyone and just keep it to yourselves coz if you tell everyone when the baby arrives you'll still have some news to tell them.
When they found out at the scan that they were having a boy, my best friend's wife went around telling everyone how annoyed she was because she'd been expecting /wanting a girl. Bizarre behaviour! -If you feel like that, keep it to yourself FFS ...but it sums her up really. 🙄
The very best reason not to find out, is because there is a tendency to start planning their life already, and as (hopefully) everyone knows, being pregnant is no guarantee of having a child. Far harder to lose a child when you've already named them, chosen their clothes, school, hobbies, decorated the bedroom...
Now, you'd think this is just basic common sense, but the dealings I have with those that deal with the aftermath sadly prove otherwise.
Don't find out
In a world where so much is a given, and total surprises becoming a rarity... Why on earth would you want to miss one of natures most truly rewarding and emotional acts ?
And that's written by someone who is a brand new father... 10 days ago
And who literally blubbed for a nation when his newborn child arrived !
