[Closed] Is it my turn to be unreasonable?

One of those rules of life ....

"Never sell a car to a mate"

Guess the same can be said of a bike... one of you will always be just a little bit, slightly upset by the "deal". A seller always wants more, the buyer to have paid less.

I've sold bikes to mates before but always at a vcompetitive prices. As to me the friends have been doing me favours for taking unwanted items off my hands… as opposed to me wanting to get the best price and the agro of achieving that.

But it just a bike … which you probably don’t need. (if you’ve done without for the past 18months, or for however long we've been looking)

So be a better person …. Tell your mate “Hope you get more for it…. I’m still there at the price we agreed if you don’t”

Then both of you WILL be happy with the price.

" I would never have made an offer if I'd known"

He didn't make an offer! the seller stated a price he accepted.

ahh.. these two guys are not really sounding much like mates to me anyway..

I like the OP, but then I like the seller too.. but which one is best...?

there's only one way to find out..

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Oh, I have to laugh. His GF just texted to say she told him to put it on eBay to get more money 🙂 Apparently the deal doesn't count because we didn't shake hands 🙂 (hmm, maybe because we were 50 miles apart during our conversation).

"His GF just texted to say she told him to put it on eBay"

his balls will be on the bay next

His GF

There is only one STW answer to this problem.

There is only one STW answer to this problem.

😆

Presumably his GF (or he) doesn't realise that even if it sells for the exact amount he'd have sold to you it's costing him 10% in final value fees, 4% in PayPal fees, £20 to post, £5 to list plus all the ball ache.

Suspect he'll end up worse off in all counts!

<having a quiet chuckle>

TBH I don't care anymore.

</having a quiet chuckle>

If he's put it on ebay for the agreed amount, it's likely he'll have no bids.
Just wait. You may be able to get it for less, later.

He's gone on ebay knowing that as a fall back he can always sell it to you. This could be quite a smart move, unless you [i]go out and buy another bike straight away........[/i]
Or you could be a sap and hope he doesn't sell it.

no cash was exchanged your in the wrong. if you agreed, exchanged cash and left with the bike different story. he gave you a quote, you failed to come up with the cash at the time of the quote.

The most satisfying outcome now would be for no-one to bid, then OP sticks a last second bid in at the minimum price. He ends up paying the agreed price, seller gets shafted with the fees. (or more likely then goes grovelling to OP to go back to original deal!)

i'd just tell him you are pissed off because you'd agreed a price and he's gone back on his word.

be upfront and sound with him, no reason to lower your standards because he has.

no cash was exchanged your in the wrong. if you agreed, exchanged cash ????and left with the bike different story. he gave you a quote, you failed to come up with the cash at the time of the quote.

Eh? Have you actually read anything in this thread?

no cash was exchanged your in the wrong. if you agreed, exchanged cash and left with the bike different story. he gave you a quote, you failed to come up with the cash at the time of the quote.

I can see where you're coming from with that position per se but it leaves me wondering what sort of mates you have to be so stern over implied Ts&Cs with them.

If he's put it on ebay for the agreed amount, it's likely he'll have no bids.

If its what I typically see on eBay, he might get one bid, certainly not a bidding frenzy. So subtract the fees he'll be worse off.

Buy the bike off eBay. Let him pay the fees. Claim the bike didn't turn up/was damaged and claim the whole lot back off him via Paypal. Then text his GF a picture of some bombers.

You are well out of it SM,do a straight deal with a stranger and get the bike you want at a price you agree on,ride off into the sunset.....
Put the e-bay link up , we'll all have a bit of fun.

Buy the bike off eBay. Let him pay the fees. Claim the bike didn't turn up/was damaged and claim the whole lot back off him via Paypal. Then text his GF a picture of some bombers.

😈

(yes, I know this was tongue in cheek, but part of me still likes the idea)

Then text his GF a picture of some [s]bombers[/s] poor soul getting beaten to death with your penis.

I wouldn't buy it now just out of principle to be honest. Shady behaviour IMHO.

I wouldn't buy it now just out of principle to be honest. Shady behaviour IMHO.

+1

'His GF told him to ebay it'? Pathetic, strike him off your mates list and look for another bike.

You don't need 'mates' like these!

I think whats really the issue here is lack of communication from your mate.

Sometimes when people propose stuff to your face, depending on the type of person you are, you may find it hard to say no, you make feel under pressure to say yes, or you may not be able to quickly do the sums to work out what would be a good deal.

He may have not even thought you were being serious (think: when you see an old school mate down the pub and he says "Yeah we must meet up sometime and catch up properly" - never happens does it.)

The issue is he hasn't explained the situation to you well enough, or been polite enough. If he had sent you a nice little message or phone call just saying "Really sorry, I know I said I would sell but actually after thinking about it I've decided I'm after a bit more money for it.".

The whole situation would of been averted. Communication and politeness. 🙂

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There will only be one winner in all this: Ebay

Sounds like the girlfriend and the OP both knew it was worth more than the OP's mate realised.

The OP didn't tell him, but his Girlfriend did 🙂

There is a strangled friendship in their somewhere. But not sure who's fault it is 😉

OP- please tell us the make and model and we will see if we can find it just by looking at the "low price"

we need detail

I was going to suggest you try to win the bike for the minimum bid (price you agreed) and then insist he posts it so has to suck up all the additional cost. This is even better though 🙂

Buy the bike off eBay. Let him pay the fees. Claim the bike didn't turn up/was damaged and claim the whole lot back off him via Paypal. Then text his GF a picture of some bombers.

I've been wondering why my so called mate wasn't returning my voicemail or "Everything alright mate?" style texts ... turns out he's gone and un-friended me on Facebook as well 😀 I guess his GF made him do that too.

First world problem, eh ... Still, I reckon I'll survive 🙂

Soooo... are you gonna link us to it on fleabay then?

You can do without childish 'mates' like that. Move on.

Read through all that and a rubbish ending so far, a bit like watching Grand Designs and you get to the end and the house isn't finished 😀

Soooo... are you gonna link us to it on fleabay then?

The ad must've been taken down before ending because the link was broken. Maybe he sold it to someone else?

Too right PP.

turns out he's gone and un-friended me on Facebook as well

Read through all that and a rubbish ending so far, a bit like watching Grand Designs and you get to the end and the house isn't finished

Are you expecting me to break into his shed, drain his brake fluid and replace it with wee 😉

Mates for just shy of 20 yrs zilog. He used to bleat on about how his GF was a bit, shall we say "overbearing", now I see exactly why. I reckon she's the driver behind his actions.

That sucks! She sounds like a proper bunny boiler! Always a shame to see a mate fall by the wayside due to poor choice of partner but there's nowt you can do.

The ad must've been taken down before ending because the link was broken. Maybe he sold it to someone else?

Hmmmm, so what was the bike & how much had you agreed to pay him, without this information I am gonna stay sat on the fence.

The ad must've been taken down before ending because the link was broken. Maybe he sold it to someone else?

Strange. Normally if something gets taken down by the seller before completing you can still see it on ebay (you just have to search for completed items). Things only disappear if ebay takes them down for breaking their terms. Something a little odd about this...

Mmmmm odd indeed.