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[Closed] Yet more online dating . . . tinder?!

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Had a great night at a party in London last night - with a good few minutes having tinder explained to me by some of the single ladies there - seedy springs to mind!

Does anyone seriously use such a thing - or is it just those odd london types!?


 
Posted : 17/11/2013 2:52 pm
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What's tinder then? Is it a hetero version of Grindr?


 
Posted : 17/11/2013 2:59 pm
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*Googles tinder*

*Confirms suspicions we're all doomed*


 
Posted : 17/11/2013 2:59 pm
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*likes bearnecessities*


 
Posted : 17/11/2013 3:04 pm
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*Googles tinder*

*sets up profile*

*[i]Likes[/i] DezB and Shibby's profiles*


 
Posted : 17/11/2013 3:04 pm
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Yes like grindr - but at least the profiles pictures contain more faces than grindr (still bleaching my mind after being shown that by a gay friend!)


 
Posted : 17/11/2013 3:18 pm
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The casual dating/sex thing?

scary 😯


 
Posted : 17/11/2013 3:23 pm
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*Googles tinder*

*sets up profile*

*Likes DezB and Shibby's profiles*

Plus one


 
Posted : 17/11/2013 3:23 pm
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I'm with emsz - I think it would be fair to say I like men and sex but what passes as dating these days is enough to put me off completely.

Edit just reread that - what I meant is by making dating predominantly about the quick shag it makes the whole online dating thing seem sordid (and I know it works for some but that is merely my perception)


 
Posted : 17/11/2013 3:32 pm
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Edit: Too childish, even for me.


 
Posted : 17/11/2013 3:40 pm
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Boo, missed your childish remark


 
Posted : 17/11/2013 3:45 pm
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No, you really didn't miss anything! Reference to a quote someone made on another thread.

I don't posess verbal dexterity to say how many things are wrong with that tinder idea; most rational folk probably know though. Huge implications if it takes off 🙁


 
Posted : 17/11/2013 4:09 pm
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I was just a bit suprised how popular it already seemed to be down there - hopefully it will just stay a london thing


 
Posted : 17/11/2013 4:21 pm
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Huge implications if it takes off

There was a website advertised on hoardings here (Brussels) which was basically a website for a 'bit on the side'. Of course this stuff exists but I was taken aback by seeing it so out in the open


 
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I suppose Tinder has its pace; if only to keep the type of people that would find it attractive well away from me...

(mind you, I don't need dating any more, anyway 😀 )

Rachel


 
Posted : 17/11/2013 5:50 pm
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Now Blendr as well - a direct straight version of grindr


 
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Thanks AW, I was blissfully unaware of Tinder, Grindr and Blendr until reading this thread. I have never been more relieved to be well out of the dating game!

A view reinforced by the experiences of a colleague who shared her experiences with us, and that was on the regular dating sites. She's now happy in a relationship with an old friend.

Good luck to all you singles seeking soulmates.


 
Posted : 17/11/2013 7:13 pm
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If folk want to have casual sex with complete strangers why would anyone else really care?
IMHO [ as it is not for me] its a sad sign of modern life/society that many are more comfortable bumping bits than bumping minds souls or emotions
Still whatever gets them through the night its their choice not mine.
I wont be joining and I have no need though.


 
Posted : 17/11/2013 7:21 pm
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It wasn't the individual choices that I found disturbing rather the general tendency for dating sites to vere towards casual sex.


 
Posted : 17/11/2013 7:29 pm
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Be naughty.com - openly advertising it
Anyone else notice that it's the guys that get charged to view/message though....


 
Posted : 17/11/2013 7:40 pm
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Surely there was always things like this- 25 years ago mags and PO boxes now an app.

I suspect the internet just makes some stuff more visible or perhaps we live in more open /liberated times.


 
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From London and lived in london all my life
And is this a London thing Nope !!!!


 
Posted : 17/11/2013 7:54 pm
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@grantway - are you single? As it seemed to be known to all the single people (and a married one!) that were at the party I was at last night.

And forgive me if im wrong JY but I always got the impression the personal ads like that were not really a mainstream phenomenon


 
Posted : 17/11/2013 8:31 pm
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It's a good site for keeping all the slappers in one place.

Yuk. 😐


 
Posted : 17/11/2013 8:38 pm
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Whatever happened to the no 3rd base until the 3rd date rule?


 
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If folk want to have casual sex with complete strangers why would anyone else really care?

Can you have casual sex with your husband / wife e.g. say whilst making the tea or reading the paper?


 
Posted : 17/11/2013 8:54 pm
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It's a good site for keeping all the slappers in one place.Yuk.

Thats fair enough but it seems like a suprising number of dating sites are used mainly for precuring a quick shag - so not really a small pocket of people


 
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Huge implications if it takes off

I'd say it might have an uplifting swell in support 😉


 
Posted : 17/11/2013 9:17 pm
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it seems like a suprising number of dating sites are used mainly for precuring a quick shag - so not really a small pocket of people

That. Not wishing to be all prudish, there is a place in everyone's life for random knee tremblers; but scouring the internet to procure them is wrong.

It's a moral race to the bottom, so to speak.


 
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Thats fair enough but it seems like a suprising number of dating sites are used mainly for precuring a quick shag - so not really a small pocket of people

From my colleagues experience I'd concur. And, reading the opening gambits or replies from the blokes, a refined dialogue is not required. It seems that the most direct offer/request and detailed description is the preferred approach. 😯


 
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My mate mentioned this Friday night to our single mates. Half an hour later we were having a decent laugh.

Stop being so boring.


 
Posted : 17/11/2013 9:29 pm
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I am far from a prude either, just find it a bit depressing.


 
Posted : 17/11/2013 9:40 pm
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@dandax1990 - are you 23?

maybe we'll check back on you in another 20 odd years and if you're single ask if you are starting to find it all a bit boring too? 🙂


 
Posted : 17/11/2013 9:54 pm
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sounds like the 'bang with friends' app!


 
Posted : 17/11/2013 9:56 pm
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Yeah I'm 23. The thing with dating, online or not, is people take it too serious. It's not a bloody job interview.

People need to learn how to have a bit of fun.


 
Posted : 17/11/2013 9:58 pm
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Dunno why I thought this was relevant. 😉

My date tells me she blocks most people who send her sleazy messages and only dates people who can spell. A good maxim for life in general

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/men/relationships/10318706/Tinder-dating-app-review-a-mans-perspective.html


 
Posted : 17/11/2013 10:08 pm
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@dandax1990 - so are you saying I should lighten up and throw myself out there for loads of casual sex

I am not a 23 year old male I am a 41 year old mother of 4 - im sure you can see that wouldnt really fit with where I am in life. Or maybe I really am too much of a prude 😀


 
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TBH I find this thread quite depressing, your killing a whole profession with your cheap dating sites, if you just want sex then pay for it, paying for a date/meal/theater just to get your end away gives you the same result which is money = shag.


 
Posted : 17/11/2013 10:23 pm
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but scouring the internet to procure them is wrong.

Huh?

Why?

Do you/do you know someone whose gone on line to find a riding partner?

Just because someone has done the same looking for sex somehow makes it unwholesome?

T inter web is just another social medium (this place after all is nothing more than a substitute for the pub!) - stop being so prissy & moralistic...this aint the age of Queen Victoria!

(When & lets be honest it was was all going on behind closed doors anyway..)

Honestly, this thread reads like a page from the Daily Wail crying over the failure of society to uphold honest & decent moral values.... 🙄

Nobody is getting hurt!
(Hopefully, & at least not without consent...)


 
Posted : 17/11/2013 10:25 pm
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Ah the joys of targeted ads. Anyone else now seeing ads for a site called 'bilove'?

just me then 🙁


 
Posted : 17/11/2013 10:29 pm
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your killing a whole profession with your cheap dating sites

Who's killing what profession? I'm confused


 
Posted : 17/11/2013 10:34 pm
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leffeboy, I'm getting Special K & ASDA, I'm rock & roll me 😉

Edit, adjustablewench, it was a tongue in cheek comment about prostitutes & the ease of sex nowadays, never mind.


 
Posted : 17/11/2013 10:36 pm
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i always wondered if they were targeted to the viewers of the forum or just to the individual user - as i once got an ad for male catheters. . . .


 
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@adjustablewench - Not sure where you got the idea that having fun means just having sex. I have loads of fun on my bike and not once have I inserted my penis into anything. Honest.

What I'm saying is a lot of single people who're looking for relationships, especially you older people, seem to get obsessed with it and don't have fun with it.

There is such a thing as 23 y/o female sl*gs as well you know. Most of them are mothers too.


 
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sounds like the modern equivalent of the late night bar/club that most towns have.


 
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