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My youngest son(31 years old) bought the wife an Ipad for Christmas. What he has done is that he has kept the new one for himself and given his old one to the Wife. Personally I think that it is taking the piss....what does everyone else think?
Of course he's taking the piss but surely even a second hand ipad is better than no ipad?
Taking the pee a wee bit but there are no rules.
It's the principle of it all, she would have felt less hurt if he just gave a £100 voucher towards a new one!
I'd get my are kicked if I'd tried that. I bought my wife an iPad last Christmas and then dropped a few hints about her old on .
It depends on what your normal christmas thing is with family.
We all spend only £40ish one each other (apart from kids), so if I didn't have an ipad, and someone were to give me one...second hand or not I would be delighted.
If you normally spend £3/400 on each other...then yes, it's a bit cheeky.
You'd feel better if he sold his 2nd hand Ipod for £100 then gave her the money?
Is your wife a bit precious?
Did he buy himself a new iPad and give his old one to your wife as he new she would make good use of it.
Or did he buy your wife a new iPad but greed got the better of him and thought better of it.
Did he tell your wife he would buy her one but instead gave her his old one.
And did he give her his old one in the new ones packaging which would take the piss because open wrapping paper "new iPad" open box "oh, er thanks dear".
Did he put it in the new box 🙂
My kind of trick 🙂
Yes,he used the new Box which is clearly for a White one. His old black one was inside with nothing else.
bit of a muppet trick IMHO
I don't think I'd give someone second-hand goods as a gift, unless they were as new.
I wouldn't fall out over it, I'd just do the same to him next Christmas..
Is he adopted or is being a douchebag hereditary?
He's a miserable tight arse.
I would tell him so.
I think you're over reacting, if the wife doesn't like it she can sell it herself and put money towards a new one. If she was hurt by this and would only have been less hurt by receiving £100 voucher instead then she sounds like a special princess. Maybe your son was making a point.
A complete arsehole thing to do. imo obviously thinks more of an iPad than his wife.
You should always treat people as you would expect to get treated yourself. I still think that it is taking the piss and I wouldn,t dream of doing it to him.
A complete arsehole thing to do. imo obviously thinks more of an iPad than his wife.
Isn't it a present for his mum, the OP's wife?
Isn't it a present for his mum, the OP's wife?
My vote is on step-mum.
😉
I bought my 9yr old a S/H laptop for Xmas.
Fear of it getting dropped etc, put me off buying a new one.
He's absolutely over the moon with it.
Loves watching minecraft videos on it.
He's so proud of it. 🙂
My vote is on step-mum.
Ex-mum, given the rift it's caused.
oops yes sorry 😳 to me still avery low thing to do.
That is quite outstandingly rude. He's just saved himself the bother of having to sell it on ebay by dumping it on your wife. Nice.
Its rodent-like underhand behavior. Are you going to confront him about it or just let off steam on here instead?
Well is she doesnt want the iPad I'll have it.
I'd probably question why a man of what, 55-60 would be asking for parental advice/opinion off this bunch of handwringerz!
Nice to see you living up to your username Monkeyfudger......sounds about right.
Do you need some advice on insults as well?
It's just an iPad.. C'mon its Christmas
Who say's there are rules for gifts ? Got a peanut butter (the american kind thngy export) one of my xmas present, im over the moon simply because i like peanut butter 😀
Nowt wrong with secondhand, my wife got a 2nd hand iPhone 5s and my daughter got a 2nd hand electro acoustic guitar. Nothing wrong with being thrifty. Why didnt the op buy his wife an iPad if he was going to get that upset.
He's given your wife an ipad and she or you is miffed about that? Funny old world.
I'd be more concerned with your son's Apple addiction and how he's peddling his filth to your Mrs.
Totally missing the point. That Ipod has cost my son nothing at all. He has bought himself a new one because he wants a new one.
If the old one was that good then why ddn't he want it?
Ipod or not the Wife would have been more pleased with something that involved a little thought.
#firstworldproblems
Eh, I'd have said "thanks for the iPad" myself.
I fear you may have over expecting levels of Christmas Gifts, any of my family would be over the moon with even a second hand ipad.......just proves how materialistic some folk are and how driven by possessions and costs of gifts some families are IMO.
Why did he feel the need to pretend it was a new one (wrapping it in the new box).
Fine, give someone a second hand one.
But don't a) buy a new one and keep it for yourself b) try to pass your hand-me-downs on as if they are new.
Amazed people think this is ok behaviour!
Mis read the OP and thought the son had given a hand me down iPad to his own wife. That seems a bit tight if he's keeping the new one for himself
But
A 2nd hand iPad as a gift to mum/ step mum. Seems pretty generous. Does the op know how much a new iPad costs?
As above.....Exactly. Spot on!
Maybe he thought his ungrateful parents would appreciate an ipad be it new or secondhand. He may have simply used the box to keep the gift safe. You can't really say it ipad didn't cost him anything as if could have cashed it in for at least £100 ... If it's an ipad 1 then ignore the above and give the boy a slap!
OP is right regarding the principle.
1. Inconsistency - if everyone gets 2nd hand gift then that's that but if not everyone should get a new one. Cheap or expensive.
2. Respect - that's the mum and she should be precious. You don't give left over food for your mum to eat so why give her the discarded stuff or item you don't want? Perhaps, the son should give a new gift in addition to the old iPad. Yes, not to waste but that is not the way.
3. Honour - the son does not know how to honour the mum. Just like parents giving the children the best in life so children should do so in return. The children should honour the parents accordingly. Yes, some family is dysfunctional but that is not the question here.
4. Character - Sometime taking care of number one self should actually be number two. The son does not know the order hence put self first above all. A son should not put self above parents unless parents are wrong but then the son should explain himself first to avoid misunderstanding.
5. Shame - It is a shame that a son does not know how the parents feel (mother or father) as we can see OP's feeling is hurt because of the son's action. A son should not do that to hurt the parents intentionally or unintentionally. The latter is easier to remedy.
Tell the boy to buy the mum another gift (new depending on his budget) and not being a tight arse.
Also a person's action tells a lot about a person character.
🙂
Would you normally expect him to spend 600 quid on your wife at Xmas or 100ish?
You're clearly fuming about it anyway. Do you have a marzocchi bomber fork? Has he left his shoes unattended?
The fact that he bought himself a new ipad is neither here nor there.
Your wife got a gift thats perfectly capable of running the apps that she will likley use.
If he'd just given her his Ipad and not replaced it, would you be upset? If he'd waited till the boxing day sales to replace his, would you be upset?
If he had bought her a new iPad, to sit on the coffee table and have her phone him once a week to remind her how to turn it on, wouldn't we all be calling him a muppet?
(im assuming most 60+yr olds are equally as cr*p with ipads/technology as my parents are)
monkeychild - Member
#firstworldproblems
Too right! How much do you lot spend on each other? It's only Christmas ffs! For kids innit? My Mum's happy if she's got a Chocolate Orange! (well, maybe a little bit more than that)
OP is not talking about the value (cheap or expensive) of the gift but rather the gesture the son demonstrated. i.e. treating himself first rather than the mum. 😯
Whether the mum knows how to drive a Ferrari (in this case using iPad) is not a question. The Ferrari can sit in the garage forever if the mum so desires and the son should ask permission to drive it if he wishes to.