missingDadsnet: Anyone complained to the CSA and got anywhere????

I’m in a pickle now, I’ll condense twelve years of history to enable those reading differentiate me between an absent father who won’t pay and a father who has been shafted by weak laws and strong maintenance laws.

timeline:
May 1999, I dumped the mother after I found out she was shagging half of the town
August 1999 I moved from North east to the North West and met someone and settled down
July 2000 letter addressed to nobody landed on door from CSA claiming 6 month old chid was mine, opened by my then partner who naturally went mental. Fav trick of the CSA back then was to not put a name on letter so anyone in the address would open it.
Oct 2001 Child A proven to be mine, and Chid B now on way to NW mother
Nov 2001 I had mother A in court for access, no formal order but we agreed monthly contact.

The CSA backdate her maintenance to her birth and i’m slapped a £6k maintenance bill and £500 bill for DNA test.

2008 the CSA get sloppy with passing on maintenance money and we leave the CSA for mutual agreement, I pay her direct which was then kep til mid 2012

2001 to mid 2012 I was seeing her every month, often twice a month. She saw her half sister with me at same time and apart from the odd fall out along the way everything’s fine.

2011 I split up with Mother B, so now have two kids to two mums, maintenance to mum B paid direct, no problems, have child B as much as I want, normally 4 nights a week.

Mid 2012 Child A’s mother text’s me saying Child A don’t want to see me no more, shove my maintenance money they don’t need it. Her fella got a huge redundancy payment and they open their own little milkshake bar in a hard up depressed mining town. THE first month they don’t chase me for money early is the month he got his payout.

October 2012 hadn’t seen Child A for four(ish) months and she comes to a family party, she’s a bit distant with me but we’re OK, I have hope that things will sort itself out.

November 2012 standing order is returned as account closed, they refused my maintenance money.

December 2012 I start court proceedings and when the CCCS interview the child at school they discover that she has a massive attitude problem towards me and she’s spouting off all sorts of negatives that a child of 12 shouldn’t know, they even admit she’s been coached, poisoned and made to feel disloyal to her mum and her ‘dad’ if she sees me. The conclusion was if I proceeded with court action they would in effect go to town in coaching her further and i’d likely lose.

The fact I’ve had a great 11 years previous, I’ve paid my way *and then some* and enjoyed a decade of time with her pales into insignificance. My solicitor said I could throw £3k (that I can’t afford) at it and if the judge on the day is unsympathetic to my cause then i’d lose.

I admit defeat and send a message to her through my mum who still sees her than i’ll take a back seat but i’m there at any point in future. When asked what she wanted for Christmas and her birthday she was very rude and replied “not bothered” and ‘whatever”. My very polite and quiet child has turned into a rude teen and the environment she’s in HAS to be the cause of it.

F-Fwd to now, I’ve sat back and hoped that when she gets older, which will only be a few years away, she may want to find me again, and of course her half sister who misses her.

Last week, I get the call of my boss to say the CSA have sent a letter asking for my earnings and now the cheeky **** now want me to cough up. I was putting the maintenance money into a trust account but now the CSA has decided I need to pay her £85 a week for the pleasure of not seeing my child. The court system is a failure, the CSA now say that I have to pay 15% of my net income towards her despite it’s 20% for two children.

Child B’s mum wants nothing to do with the CSA as she’s seen the shit they’ve thrown at us at the start and because she won’t call the CSA and take me through them I know pay her direct and 15% instead of 10% to the bitch oop North. I’ve protested this to them and all I got was “they are the rules, it’s an act of parliament” 🙄

The CSA is changing to the CMS this year and they openly tout people to sort out their own arrangements, yet they won’t acknowledge my second child, so it’s going to force me to beg the second ex to take me through them. Despite the fact she hates child A’s mum for the shit she put us through she’s happy to take my money direct and without the CSA’s involvement.

So, what do I do? I can’t afford to pay the CSA what they want and still pay into a separate savings account for her future, so am I morally correct to try and get this figure down to the correct 10% split of the 20% I should pay between the two?

This isn;t about me evading payment, it’s about fairness, I can’t see my child yet the w6nk3rs want my money, probably to throw into gaming machines in a mining town labour club and boozebusters.

Would finding out who the minister in charge of the CSA is and send them a tasty letter??

don’t know, but please be honest with your opinions…

I’ve asked about what their complaints procedure is and the fella told me on the phone that it’s basically reviewed by another ‘officer’ then sent back out and mine has been checked, you can’t complain about the rules only complain about the rules not being enforced correctly.