Big jumps for me are the best part of riding my mountainbike but you need to build up your skills gradually.
I’m nearly 44 and can clear 30 foot plus tabletops and doubles happily.
I’m not a hero, I’ve just taken the time to learn to do it reasonably safely.
Repetition and muscle memory are the key factors.
If you really don’t like the feeling of flying then the risk isn’t worth it but if you do like it and want to get better, find a well built tabletop and practice, practice, practice.
Being relaxed is the most important thing, which is difficult when you’re (quite rightly) terrified.
Just make sure you get that whip reeled back in before you land 😉