As the title really..
Both my partner and I are good people. We just clash! And we clash at least once a day, usually just arguments. But she has started lashing out at me.
I am not overly critical but my partner appears to have a demeanour that is never ever wrong, and anything other than complete agreement or an apology from myself ensures that an argument is never resolved. She has spoken of being bullied as a child , picked on and called dopey , and I really think her issues stem from this. ? She has become defensive to the point of filling an argument with as much confusion and distraction as is possible.
Take for example tonight …we’d had a lovely day and then this conversation which led to a full on argument .
Partner- I’ve just had to give our baby boy some calpol as he had a temperature
Me- oh poor lad what was it?
Partner- 37.0
Me- that’s not a temperature is it ?
Partner- well I know but err that’s what we call a temp on the ward
Me- really.. Normal body temp is 37.0 is it not. ?
Partner -ah I knew that but our ward is different
Me- sure, so you’d give paracetamol as a pyretic to someone with a temp of 37.0
Partner- ah if there temp is 37.5 we give paracetamol.
Me – but Our sons temp was 37.0??
Partner – yeah but that’s what we do in hospital !!!???
This little chat led to a full on argument because my partner then starts flying off in tangents bringing irrelevant stuff in to the argument ,,,-aggghhhh my goodness.
I’m starting to feel like a bully even though I know I’m anything but ! I pull my weight and think I’m an excellent dad.
I’m just tired of constantly arguing.