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You Tube is your friend for all old mix tapes.Posted 5 years ago | Go to post
Reply to: Christchurch NZ
I go down there regulrly with work and I’d quite happily live there. However, as a couple of people have mentioned above, there is huge competition for rental housing. Might be worth checking Trade Me – 3 bed houses in Merivale are going for $1200/week.Posted 6 years ago | Go to post
Reply to: smacking kids
I smacked both my kids when they were young. I did it for a short period of time in a particular way and for certain behaviour. I did it because the charade of them pretending to be bothered about being sent to the naughty step (and then dealing with repeated requests to leave the step), or having some other privilege or possession removed just wasn’t worth the effort. It was a brief, not particularly pleasant, but effective episode. We did it and moved on. They learned to do what they were told at an age when they were testing boundaries. Boundaries are there to be tested, but there are limits.
I didn’t beat the shit out of them in any way and I’ve definitely smacked my wife on the arse (in fun) a lot harder than I smacked the kids!
They are now 14 and 19 and I’ve just asked them if they can remember getting smacked. They can just about remember it and neither are remotely bothered about it. They are well-adjusted and well-behaved young adults.
It wasn’t abuse in any way. Any arguments about it being the same as hitting an adult are facile, and I’d like to see someone deal with an adult with the mental age of a five year old by sending them to the naughty step, which is actually the equivalent argument.Posted 6 years ago | Go to post
Champix is brilliant. You won’t think it will work until the day you come to stop and it’s like you never smoked. The dreams are also brilliant, if you like that kind of thing.
Take some time away from any smoking mates for a while though. If you’re tempted after a drink just think how pissed at yourself you’ll be if you wake up in the morning and you’ve spoilt your smoke-free run, and conversely how good you’ll feel if you’ve resisted.Posted 6 years ago | Go to post
Reply to: Transferring money to New Zealand
My Mother wanted to send us over the equivalent sterling to NZ$400 for Xmas. I opened a paypal account, which took about 5 minutes, and added my bank account. She then transferred the money and the next day I received it and transferred it to my bank account, which is where I am assuming it is now. Dead easy.
Hope this helps.Posted 6 years ago | Go to post
Left the UK in early 2011 to come to NZ. Love it here but it took a while to feel that way. There are a few things I miss about the UK – living in the Peak District, the smell of cowshit on a winter ride, history, the ability to laugh at yourself etc but mostly it’s my mates I miss. There are a lot of things I don’t miss.
Last summer lasted for nearly six months and it was stunning. There is a lot more to life than good weather, but it definitely helps.
We’ll probably come back at some point and as my wife and I paid tax and NI for close on 40 years between us, and will do so again when we come back, we’ll be quite comfortable using the services of the NHS and other public services, thanks.Posted 6 years ago | Go to post
Reply to: How many expats haven't gone home (yet)?
Also in NZ but in Auckland for my sins. My wife went home last year for a visit so my son and I took the chance to have a bit of a road trip. I have no real desire to go home until we do actually go home, but I am definitely not settled in Auckland. I get around a lot with work and am pretty convinced I’d be a lot happier in pretty much every other part of NZ other than Auckland (except maybe Hamilton). Have plans to try to move to Welly in the new year.
If I could go back to the UK every year, for not much money and for a week or so just to say hi to people, I would. As it is, it’s too expensive and too far.
I am worried about actually moving back permanently. We are going to have to do it for family reasons but I’m not convinced I’m going to settle back there. Having said that, I miss the Peak a shitload.
Down in Chch next week, as it goes. Am planning to start bringing my bike when it gets lighter.Posted 6 years ago | Go to post
Reply to: Nightmare teenage daughter
I can sympathise. My daughter (whio is actually my step-daughter but from a very young age and and who has no contact with her father) was a lovely, funny, charming girl until she turned 13. She then turned into a rude, selfish, antagonistic bitch literally overnight.
We had that for two years and then it got worse when she started seeing a 21yr old dickhead without our knowledge. When we found out it got even worse. She messed up her GCSEs, got pregnant and various other things happened. Absolutely nothing we (or anyone else) tried made any difference whatsoever.
For complete unelated reasons we (her Mum, her brother, the dog and me) are now in New Zealand and she is still in the UK. She chose to stay with her then boyfriend (as she was 17 by then and we couldn’t make her come) and now just wants to stay there, despite not being with him any more. She is out the other end now and we miss her like mad, saw her for a holiday in Thailand last year and will see her again when and if we move back.
We get on very well over Skype but she is her own person and has her own life. She’s just turned 19 to give you some idea of timescales.Posted 7 years ago | Go to post
Reply to: Packing your bags and saying goodbye…
We did it in 2011. Moved to NZ. Generally it has been great though it took longer than we thought to settle in. I’ve lived overseas a lot but got a little bit caught out here assuming it would be too much like the UK. Our daughter, who is now nearly 19, stayed in the UK as she refused to leave her now ex-boyfriend. We miss her a lot but she won’t come over here. Our 13yo son now loves it and doesn’t want to go back. We do want to move back in a few years but if our feelings change it will be no hassle to stay.
I have two brothers, one lives in Prague and one lives in Dubai. Neither of them is particularly inclined to return to the UK.
As mikeyp said, give it a go. Time passes quickly.Posted 7 years ago | Go to post
As a kid my family lived abroad and we moved country quite a lot. Both my brothers and I went to boarding school from 11 to 18. My parents had split up and still lived abroad. By the time my Mum came back to the UK we were perfectly happy and didn’t want to leave.
I have kids and wouldn’t send them to boarding school. Having said that, just because I’d miss them hugely doesn’t mean that they wouldn’t be happy, or even prefer it. What teenager wouldn’t want to be with his mates rather than his family, generally speaking? As far as I was concerned, I got to play shitloads of sport and spent all day every day and weekends hanging around my my mates – what’s not to like? Plus I got around 18 weeks holiday a year (which made up for going to school 6 days a week, being in lessons from 9-5 every day and then doing 2hrs of study in the evenings).
Boarding schools are full of normal kids, just like many other schools. As far as being like “If” is concerned – absolute bollocks. If you met me I’m pretty sure you wouldn’t think I had gone to a stereotypical boarding school.Posted 7 years ago | Go to post
Reply to: Asthma: What does Peak Flow really mean?
Slightly bizzarely I’ve just googled “peak flow only 540” and the first hit I got was this thread on Singletrack. I had a company medical today and got 540. I looked at the chart FunkyDunc posted above online earlier and I’m way off where I should be as a 40yo. I’ve always been fit – used to be able to hold my breath for 2 1/2 mins, ran the 400m for an athletics club, played all sorts of sports and have never felt that the limiting factor to my fitness was an inability to suck air and and out and I’d definitely say I have always been fitter and faster than most of my mates. Never had asthma as far as I know although I did used to smoke.
It’s no big deal I suppose but I am wondering if there is anything I can change. My wife says I should stop obsessing!Posted 7 years ago | Go to post
I heard he also drove around town on a Yamaha
Didn’t he also do a skid and hit a kid?Posted 7 years ago | Go to post
Was it definitely karate (or was it kickboxing) and did the instructor have a very big nose?Posted 7 years ago | Go to post
Reply to: My missus is pissed off
After a few years of marriage, some of them difficult, I have come to the conclusion that men take too much shit in this sort of situation. Nowadays I generally know what I am supposed to have done (if and when I’ve done something wrong). If I have done something to apologise for (i.e. not just something that she perceives as being wrong), I apologise and mean it. If I don’t believe I have done something wrong I explain why and will happily discuss, but won’t take any notice of silent treatment. On the odd occasion that there is silence and I don’t know why, I ask, allow some time for her to build up to saying something, ask again if she stills says nothing and then tell her that I will assume that there is nothing wrong if she is not going to explain and then carry on as normal.
I should clarify that we have a great marriage that has gone from strength to strength over the years and I love her to bits, but I just don’t agree that men are always in the wrong just because women state that to be the case. I refuse to go along with that.
I should also add that there are times where I didn’t believe I was wrong but then accepted I was after we talked it out – her simmering in silence wouldn’t have taught me that though.Posted 7 years ago | Go to post
Reply to: New Zealand Flights
Whats Hels and kiwifiz said…
I’ve only done it once as I’ve not gone back to the UK since I got here but I went Manc – LAX – AKL and it was as good as it could be. Stopover in LA was ok – got off – queued in a corridor – spoke to a nice immigration lady – waited in the lounge and ate free crisps and used the free interweb – got back on and then got off at 5.30am in Auckland. Stayed awake all day, had a few beers in the evening and woke up feeling fine.
Took a bike and they only charged me 50% of the second bag charge as it was a bike.
And I got to watch loads of rugby on the plane, which was nice.Posted 7 years ago | Go to post
Take him down next season – it’ll start September-ish.
I was an RFU mini and junior coach for 5 years until I emigrated last year. All club rugby is governed by RFU rules and coaching guidance. He’ll start of in the Tots just runing around with the ball really and then progress to Minis and then Juniors etc. It’ll be tag rugby until U9 I think when tackling starts. No hand-offs until U13. Uncontested scrums come in around then as wel but don’t become contested until the next year and even then they can only shove 1.5m so it’s really a restart like in League. The game duration will also grow but normally the coaches of each team will agree something sensible, depending on numbers, weather etc. 40mins each way won’t happen until adult rugby.
My son started in the U7 and loved it more and more each year. We moved to NZ and ironically he now doesn’t want to play, which is fustrating. The big difference here is that they have weight restricted rugby so the litle skinny lads can play without getting hurt and the big lads learn skills rather then being able to run the length of the field every time. That said, most of the Islander boys here are older than they say and enormous so there is no shortage of sizeable players.
In England the kids still have to call the ref “Sir” and they will get disciplined for poor sportsmanship. All good stuff.
Get him into rugby if you can. It’s the best team sport in the world and arguably one of the most social – most countries in the world have a rugby club that’ll make other players welcome.Posted 7 years ago | Go to post
AdeC knows who I am but I don’t know who they are.Posted 7 years ago | Go to post