I feel sorry for you chainbreakerdave.
Personally as shattered as I would be, I could never take her back.
Get the money into your accounts asap.
Go see a divorce laywer on Monday!
I think she has already done her reserach and has made plans.
Don’t talk to her about your actions or do anything stupid.
Seek legal advice asap.
Go see friends and ride a bike but don’t confront or grovel or question.
Give yourself a time period to grief, recover and set new goals. Just don’t take too long.
Keep your self esteem high and love yourself-right a list of things great about you to give yourself a boost. Look in the mirrior and say you’re great is one technique a female friend used when she divorced her cheating husband.
Don’t stay inside. Go out, enjoy fresh air, see a good lawyer for advice and prepare for $hit and live to enjoy the days.
Stay strong bud.