Coming from a different angle,just because kids say that they're ok,the opposite might be closer to the truth. My Mrs. works with the disruptive kids at school. They're usually hard-faced,foul-mouthed and generally unpleasant.My wife is very good with kids of all ages,and eventually they open up to her. Mum and Dad have split,they pretend that they can cope,but really they just want their mum and dads.
….But life isn't that simple,been through some tough times myself,so can sympathise with you.