You’re just showing your ignorance about mental health. If it was as easy as that we could fix mental health problems overnight.

Would you like me to “pull my socks up” as well?

Breaking up with a narcissits.
I’m confused, why is that different from breaking of with a non-narcissistic person?

Because of the effect of the psychological abuse experienced during the relationship.

You will have been lied to, cheated on, insulted, criticised, demeaned, experienced narcissistic rages which make Eastenders look like rational conversations which can last many hours /days, spent much of your life living in fear because you never know where or when the next rage/beating is coming from or what will trigger it.

By the time you get out you may well have lost your self esteem, self confidence, have pretty severe depression and anxiety, not be sleeping, have complex PTSD , Stockholm syndrome, paranoid schizophrenia (rarely) and be completely unable to trust anyone for a long time.

Hebdencyclist – have a look at the OP’s previous posts on this.

Have a look at the Thrive After Abuse YouTube channel.

It’s probably to do with distance to travel and therefore the time it takes. If you own horses or go riding the stables are likely to be relatively close to your house and if you own the horse you’re there every day to muck out, ride out etc so to have a little and often lesson just replaces one of your normal rides. Similarly with tennis you’re likely to be in the local club which will be relatively close to you and will go once or twice per week – relatively easy to use that visit as a lesson.

With mountain biking there are far fewer suitable locations – most instructors will be based at trail centres. Do I want to go to the same trail centre every week for a lesson of an hour then do my own riding or do I want to ride my bike in different places. Have a think next time you drive to a trail centre how many horse stables or tennis courts/clubs/leisure centres you have driven past.

In addition – how many people are fit enough to survive a days tennis coaching?

Why do you need a satnav to find your way around a farm?

I’ve found the shin bashing aspect of fixed types to be a non issue.

Says someone who hasn’t yet discovered how much this hurts!

You won’t bash your shins very often but it hurts and is incredibly annoying when you do.

Go to the pepipoo forums. They know more about parking ticket regulations than anyone on here does. If you follow their advice I suspect you won’t have to pay anything.

He wasn’t saying it was his opinion though. He was presenting it as “scientific fact”.

Further north in Scotland. Plenty space and not many people north of Inverness.

Don’t use the cover for driving other people’s cars off your mates own insurance. If he has it it will be uk only so no use abroad.

Who’s your insurer or are you and your friend particularly young, bad driving record or in a powerful car. Done what you’re trying to do loads of times and never paid more than £40. Is it worth cancelling your policy and finding a more reasonable insurer. Direct Line always been reasonable for me.

Never had issues with the Blackhall branches of Farmer Autocare for tyres. Can’t vouch for the other branches.

I wouldn’t worry too much about the not being able to work his tv or TV recorder. Pretty sure there’s a stat that if you encounter a technology before you’re 40 then you’ll be able to use that technology for the rest of your life. Anything that comes along after 40 will be increasingly baffling or confusing and we’ll struggle with it more as we get older. Bear in mind that when he was 40 tvs only had 1 input (the aerial), there were only 3 channels which didn’t broadcast 24hours per day, no remote controls and no TV recorders.

I’m 37 and find my smartphone baffling. To me it’s got 5 useful icons and 20 decorative pictures. At school it was the kids who showed the teachers how to use the VHS player.

Sure your neighbour is elderly, sounds like he’s had a tough time recently and is understandably a bit stressed and anxious which will impair his cognitive ability. This in combination with loneliness means he’s looking for a friendly face. Just do what you’re doing and maybe try and find some other neighbours who could share the burden.

Are you talking about 2 different deliveries ordered from different places or have parcelforce given up and somehow subbed it to DPD?

Parcelforce or DPD?

Confused!

Ok – phenomenal may be a bit of an exaggeration but I’m not convinced Rothiemurchus is 60% better than Dalraddy but you are. Everybody’s different. Those £4’s do start to add up if there’s more than 1 of you or you’re staying more than a couple of nights.

Rothiemurchus campsite is phenomenally expensive. Dalraddy is more reasonable but not near any hostelries.

Train carriages involved in fatal train carriages get repaired and returned to service. Houses aren’t demolished if someone dies (unless its the scene of multiple newsworthy murders). Why should vehicles be destroyed if they’re involved in a fatality?

Have you ever seen a “gone off” packet of sugar or a jar of “gone off” Lyles Golden Syrup?

Your gels are just a very expensive packet of the above.

This bloke did the sums for you

http://mccraw.co.uk/saved-house-deposit-cycling-work/

Aviemore – you’ll never need to visit Wales or the Lakes again!

With the cheap tat ones some are good and some are useless. I’ve seen some that work well and some that couldn’t defrost an ice cube. Pot luck I’m afraid.

Find an old Tilley stove on eBay. I’m still using the one my grandparents bought 50+ years ago.

You’re probably right but could try telling him he needs to improve his finger strength and stamina. Get him one of those grip squeeze things that climbers use so be can practice squeeze/relax with his hands

Thermarest last forever

I did a good one at the Edale YHA centre. Was about 20 years ago though! Peter Cliff book is good.

What’s bigger and heavier than a range rover that you can tow with on a normal licence?

12-14 miles is a BIG walk in the Lakes – have a look at Naismiths rule as a guide for how much you’ll slow down going up hill.

Butter Pie Barm with chips and pea wet.

Or the Scottish takeaway delicacies Deep fried pizza, deep fried pies or battered mars bar.

There’s a family pic of me on striding edge age 7. Parents didn’t seem too worried as they’re 100m behind me taking the pic. Your kids will be fine

just chuck a couple of tonnes of gravel down every few years. Makes its own sub base and after a few years you won’t need to put more down.

Depending on how fancy your gravel is – £20 – £50 per tonne.

The mood changes are what I found really hard. You end up living in fear of doing anything as it’s always something you do which triggers them. You don’t need to do anything wrong you just need to do something.

With NPD are you aware of the discard – return pattern. It happens repeatedly until you get to the final discard.

Currently trying to escape a long term relationship from someone who I strongly suspect is NPD. I’m a shell of the person I used to be with pretty bad depression, anxiety, low self esteem and confidence. As I understand it if the person is willing to accept they have BPD and undergo treatment and work really hard then they can improve significantly then a healthy relationship can be possible.

If they can never accept that they have flaws which they need help with (NPD) then run for the hills.

If you’re going to try and develop coping strategies make sure they’re not detrimental to yourself. Mine were and I’m a psychological mess now.

Loads of varied answers whereas a few weeks ago. Someone asked where the best mtb was and the conclusion appeared to be Surrey – strangely no one has suggested that Surrey is good for road biking!

Definitely could be worded better but we don’t know how much of that is down to the teacher, where the teacher copied it from or the OPs paraphrasing.

They’ve used the word “again” to describe the 2nd -4th strike. So you look at how many strikes were described for the first strike to know how many strikes in 2nd-4th strike.

I think you should have told your kid about Schrodinger and his cat.

If nobody heard the clock strike then did the clock strike or not?

Is there not enough detail in the book to work out the routes on an OS map.