Go and help her – you are not useless, you are what she needs around to encourage, support, love and generally be you. eh yes but no!
What she wants is you to Get her any thing she wants including support! My wife didn’t want any of the cuddling back rubbing NCTM stuff! I provided water, a hand to squeeze, and a fan when commanded other wise I sat in the chair or by the birthing pool!
Second time around the midwife was shooting me dirty looks for sitting out of the way! I felt really bad and had to say look Im doing exactly what she wants! To which my wife then said he’s fine I don’t want anyone near me!, 😆
It’s an amazing thing to see, and it’s amazing how your OH will cope with it all.
My one piece of advice is she’ll be knackered so try to take the weight off her as much as possible for the first day or so, as JR will do its thing straight way. It’s a brill experience kids tough but great! Oh the the black tar like poo only lasts. Few days………. 😯
Best of luck to all three of you!