Cheers

i wish someone made the ibeam-railed adapter!

ha! ok thanks I’m glad I posted…..i’l go for the easy to clean/non rattley version I think 😀

doh….yeah the crank shaft…maybe just the non stealth version then!

I swear I read about other people DIY’ing this on their frames though?

yeah good point about the loop of cable, maybe better an inch up the down tube?
But the metal is much thinner there…

I just presumed the bb shell would be safer due to the thickness of the steel

Just checked in, amazed and very grateful for you taking the time to post.

Again I’ll be reading through this with my partner because it is very useful considering all the different perspectives.

Il just quickly reiterate that I have never wanted kids, always spoke my mind about it and she knows/knew. She used to not be that worried, tried to convince herself that she didn’t want them, but know is almost certain she does and has a timeframe set in her mind.

We talk openly and honestly. We are both aware that this isn’t a situation that can be compromised and that potentially it may lead to us heading down separate paths.

This, for me is the biggest decision with the biggest potential for massive and long lasting regret I have ever had to make.

While I’m not looking for the answer to be given to me in this thread (it can’t be), your perspectives are incredibly helpful.

If you are going to regret anything, it’s putting a downer on what should be one of the best periods of your life.

Very true, i’m trying to hold onto this thought.

makecoldplayhistory- can i ask what you do for a living?

milky- thank you for the post.
can i ask why you didn’t want kids? how strongly did you know you didn’t?
It’s almost impossible to imagine having to choose to end things, let alone the thought of potential regret in the future without her.

Did you meet someone else too?

Really interesting reading, thank you all for taking the time to post.

I really appreciate those who have taken the time to read the whole thread and pick up on a few key points such as

-Unfortunately being able to wait and see how my mindset changes over the years is not an option. I need to make a commitment now or let her find a family elsewhere.

-It’s not a case of ‘is she the right person’ for me to be with or have kids with, we have such a good relationship that, without doubt if I did want kids, she would be the one I would want to have them with. No question about that, I bought an engagement ring months ago before she changed her mind to so firmly wanting kids (I think watching her brother have a child/another friend may have firmed her mind…which I totally understand). She knows I have the ring so there is no doubt of current commitment on either side.
At the end of the day it would be me ending the relationship not her, so that I am not stopping her from starting a family.

-If I did commit to kids I would never be able to nor want to split and run, I couldn’t and wouldn’t do that to her or any children.

It’s been surprising and more than a little frightening to read how many people have had problems conceiving or how long it has taken, this shortens my time frame even more. I totally understand and agree that the younger the better, not just for health reasons but also so you are more likely to be fit and healthy to enjoy their childhood.

Muppetwrangler- that’s exactly it, I don’t think that this is something we can compromise on. If she says ok no kids, she will almost certainly be sad about it forever and it will darken the relationship.
If i say- yes ok kids, there is a chance (% unknown as i can’t tell the future!) that I will resent my choice if my mindset doesn’t change.

DT78- also a very useful post; we currently have very little money, no jobs or careers, not even a home rented or otherwise! while we travel….the whole thing would need to be built from the ground up– starting pretty soon to have it done and 2 kids by 35.
I have been fighting having a career in favour of the freedom to travel etc since school, something else I would have to change my mindset on.

Thank you all for your honesty and experiences, please keep them coming if you can.

I am not looking for an answer, because I know that everyone is different and I can’t but scratch the surface of the detail in our lives, but it is very, very helpful to see this from other people’s perspectives. We are both reading the posts and discussing.

Thank you STW

gonefishin- precisely my problem, thanks for reading the story.
Not really sure what I’m looking for, but at the moment I can’t decide

scuttler- yeah you are right, we are very very lucky to have what we have.
I also agree that in the next 8 years I may change my mind, my trouble is that I need to somehow know this now! Impossible

wanmankylung- I think expecting anyone to chose a person over a maternal desire to have kids is a bit of an unfair battle?
At the moment it ‘feels’ more my choice to stay or go, but it means having to make a decision about a future I can’t see into.

I fear equally- saying no, losing the ‘one’ and changing my mind towards kids naturally in the future…but she will be long gone
– saying yes to kids but never changing my mind towards kids…then not enjoying having kids but being committed to having them.

three fish: her role in my life is…we make each other happy, we are travel companions and general best friends in daily life.

I think that perhaps for me, having kids would be too much of a sacrifice of time and freedom. I am not wealthy so would have to work mad hours to support children, I couldn’t travel and do lots of things which I enjoy at the moment…all of which could make our relationship worse.

I appreciate that in 5-10 years I may mellow, settle and have a completely different opinion….but I don’t have the luxury of waiting and seeing! I need to know within the next year really.

I have just read the other thread to the end. Very helpful.
Thank you

thats really helpful, thanks for the honesty.
Thanks for the link, sorry didnt think this would be a topic that came up too often.

might be a bit duff, I tightened mine and its still stiff a couple months on.

That’s brilliant!

My face when he threw it in the river 😆

thanks timba…that’s what I was trying to articulate but it was too late at night to get it out correctly 😀
a 30mm shell width would be madness!

Those cranks should fit most BB shell types including BSA threaded

only the 30mm ones….so hope, raceface, rotor, enduro

doh…..bed time

From reading through the press release
It looks like there is needless confusion here…

The bb386’evo’ just means they made the axle shaft a bit longer to allow fitment into external BSA bb’s on frames with a 68mm width …or pressfit into frames with a wider bb shell. (or using shims/adapters with either to run ‘standard’ 24mm diameter axled cranksets eg shimano)

From reading PX frame spec your
bb shell is 68mm
bb shell is BSA threaded
evo crank diameter is 30mm

So there are few options including hope’s, enduro, raceface (made of cheese) and a few others

have you had a look at that hope PDF?

Measure up, there is a bb on that sheet for near enough any crankset you can think of 😯

So it’s a BSA with 30mm axle?

Get a 30mm BSA hope stainless bb?

If you want to measure up manually to double check, use this pdf from hope

You can use a standard shimano bottom bracket so a deore one for a tenner or in my humble opinion buy a hope one and never buy another!

>>Lots more info in here<<

yeeees thank you! found one

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yes boys!

Sooo keen to get up there this year after grabbing a last minute ticket from the classifieds 😀

Hopefully the usual banterish/cheery atmosphere as always!

that is an excellent link thank you!

and will invest in some decent cables 😀

cheers folks!

i shall have a look smokey

commuted in on it this morning with several hard stops but not increase in power

also come from full sus! yeti asr-5c with carbon everything…..regrets?

Hell no!

best bike I have ever ridden, easy

and it’s awesome so buy one 😀

my 21″ is 1180mm hub-hub

no worries i’l measure up when I’m back at work tomorrow, feel free to nudge me via email as I have the memory of a catflap

a 21″? i can measure mine if so

BOOOOOOO

i liked it….loads

what a dude

thanks to whom ever sent me that link, going to have a sit in one locally 😀

yes, very nice indeed