Was a fat, beer swilling, fag smoking 38yr old but was good to my wife and kids and they loved me. After a bit of self assessment decided to give up the fags, cut down the booze and, after years of couch surfing, become a bit more active. Joined a gym, bought a ‘mountain bike'(£150 gate) sorted out diet. Lost 56lbs……………….and suddenly became attractive to women!(a novelty, to say the least). At this time we had an influx of younger staff (early/mid 20’s)at work with whom I kinda fell in with – clubbing etc. The missus put up with all this with unbelievable good grace and we still got on fine. Then it happened…………..the younger woman. Won’t go into detail but went almost down the same path as Crikey, didn’t leave home/family but the fall-out was pretty bad. Was depressed for about 2yrs after ending the affair and had lots to make up to my wife and kids. Everything is good now, though. The kids are doing well and are happy, my wife still loves me and I her, the younger woman is now married and expecting a child and we are also on reasonably good terms.It could have been a **** of a lot worse and might have been if it were not for my wifes determination that our marriage was worth saving, God bless her.