rightyho for those interested a bit of an update.
I sat down with her today to go through her paperwork and get an action plan for mondays meeting with the CAB (im going in with her)
it appears that she may have some precedent of stress at work.
18 months ago she reduced her hours from 5 days to 3, on grounds of stress.
She has had several absences from work for between several days and a week, with stress being the reason given.
I do not think she has formally stated that her work is causing her this stress (ie "I am off work because i cant cope with my job, and my manager is intimidating me" but then who would say that….)
She has regularly been leant on to work extra hours, even being asked to come in for "training" in her own time and without being paid for this, including being asked to work late, and through her breaks.
She has communicated her concerns verbally to her manager, and team leader but nothing formally.
Her new manager is known for hitting targets and widely thought to be a target person not a people person…..
The initial meeting following her misdemeanor, was called an investigation, she asked if she had anything to worry about and if she should bring a rep, she was told no, and not to worry about it.
following the initial meeting she was put back on the job for a week, doing the pre screens etc etc.
Her manager phoned her on her mobile during this week and asked lots of probing questions about her life, and issues she has going on (something he has never done before, he always evaded any personal chat with her prior to this….
Then she had the formal meeting, where she was suspended. and given some addresses of 3rd party advise centres and advised to bring an in house rep with her next time, she is not allowed to bring in a 3rd party (ie solicitor, or an angry son).
TBH I think she is screwed, she doesnt particularly want the job anymore (and certainly not following a long battle to get her reinstated) so i think the best way out would be a negotiated exit with minimal fuss, and a decent reference…