Not the selfish thing again…having a baby is most certainly not selfish in the sense that you have to give up a lot of freedom. Perhaps it is if you can't afford to support it though and expect the state to cover you – I mean in the sense of being responsible for your actions.
OTOH selfish people shouldn't have babies for obvious reasons.
As for a couple having kids – I don't agree it's the woman's decision as it's a joint thing. I couldn't terminate a healthy baby but then I probably wouldn't be with a woman who could.