I can relate to everything you have said and are going through op,we have been down that road with our youngest daughter,but my daughters illness started when she started high school and puberty. CAMS have been magnificent with us but unfortunately our daughter had to go into hospital and that is where she recieved the care that was required to get her to a place where she could handle and function in a normal day to day environment.
She had OCD but with that came anger,violence,smashing up the house and not going to school for over a year. She has now been out of hospital for 14 months and is getting back to the person she once was.
My email is in my profile if you would like some advice or real world experience of the situation.