My wife and I are both foster carers of well over 10 years and our hearts go out to you. We’ve had a few kids with serious problems (as well as amazing kids) over the years. Having to stay up until 3 in the morning most nights waiting for the police to bring our 14 year old home pissed up. Not going to school. Setting fire to her bedroom bin (was the last straw for me). This was going on for well over a year so we ended up giving our 28 days notice for her to leave, as it was clear she didn’t want to live with us. Her older brother was constantly thieving from us (including my wife’s bank details). Not going to college. The list goes on. Anyway, when the foster kids turn 18, they have a staying put agreement, where they have to look for a job and pay board, and look for a flat. He had no intention of doing either, so again we gave our 28 days notice.
It’s bad enough when it’s affecting just you and your partner, but when they’re other kids in the house, like ours, then it obviously impacts them.
Fostering certainly isn’t all bad as we’ve had some lovely kids who just want a bit of love and a stable home.
Just don’t let social services fob you off about shortages of placements as they do with us. You can only do so much. Best of luck johndoh