Stay positive, the wedding planning should really help you look to the future.
I know what you mean about the waiting, i had some great news in that my second wider exicsion on my arm came back all clear yesterday, in for my second site one on thursday so i'm a lot more optomistic. I'm sure you'll be getting better news soon.
As for specialists, I'm a teacher in a state school and whislt i was on the operating table last week he asked me what i did and then proceeded to tell me how bad state education was on how that "obviously his children were privately educated". Luckily for him i wasn't really in the mood for a full on debate, especially as he was holding a very sharp scalpel!
Stay strong.
PS my On One SS frame arrived yesterday as my little 'treat' so i'll be building that up this w/e, have you got anything new lined up, it does take your mind off other things.