You and craig5 have kinda loosely described me there…
It’s hard work having long mental health problems.
I can truck along along ok most of the time now I’ve better coping strategies but introduce stress in any form and it can set me off again. Relationships being one of them.
She’ll most likely want it to work out but her head will be exploding at the moment, it’s awful..I’d do the exact same thing and push the other person away
Honestly. Be compassionate to her situation but back off and be prepared for nothing to happen. If you want, give her the option that you’ll be there if she wants to try again but don’t put any pressure for that to happen. Let her contact you. You can’t fix her and it doesn’t just go away especially if she is a long termer like me.