My experience of crc was the full bike had to go back, and I had changed the group set etc. I would be contacting the wheel purchaser and knocking that on the head. It might knob them off, but it’s a legitimate issue, so don’t really think anyone would hold it against you. I can’t understand how you didn’t see it till now?

See ^ you are about to enter one of the most pointless debates of your life and you will never get that time back.

A marriage 😐

Meanwhile in the real world I have been on the winning side of yet another major issue.

Cool story Bro.

Awesome riding, whatever route, my hat’s off to him.

Personal thing, as with all things ascetic. Although they are very ‘cool’ at the moment. Bit meh for me, but fill your boots.

7 years 😯 I would have tossed myself blind in a year!!

is there any benefits

It will make you 0.8754% more attractive to people that like carbon.

Take care dude!

All good, I just didn’t want to be upsetting anyone over this, given I was just a passenger.

I kinda think my post is being viewed as quite negative, which was not the way it was intended, I was more hoping to highlight the awful impact I’ve witnessed first hand. In fairness, I fell for someone, and was on the verge of moving them and their children in, so there was nothing casual about it, and we all ended up hurt.
My comment about ‘either party’ was I cannot see what either the victim or perpetrator gains from the relationship, and that this in itself demonstrates the warped normality of living in such a relationship, and how insular they become.
I spent 10 years off my life assessing people who self harmed or attempted suicide in a&e’s, and whilst dv had a role in a significant number of cases, I never truly ‘got it’, till I fell for someone that lived that life. I thought that being, decent, loving and honest would be enough to make things work. Looking back I don’t know if I was niave or arrogant, but whichever I was in love and well intended.
So my apologies if my post has offended, this was never my intention.

I had a relationship with a girl that had lived through 3 dv relationships over about 12 years, the last one wasn’t overtly violent but controlling and belittling. Her head was a total mess, understandably paranoid, and just unable to sustain a life that wasn’t in total chaos. I was the platform for the separation with the last partner as things were ‘on and off’ with them. But sadly, I wasn’t told this. She was intelligent, professional and attractive and seemed to have managed two lives over the whole time. We lasted about 18 months, as time went on I just couldn’t get my head around the impact this life had on her, and things between us were very controlled in order to reduce her worry. The simple pleasant ‘in love’ things were all lost in the mire of anxiety and mistrust. Months in it was kind of like living the first few weeks of a relationship, where there is no certainty or security, but it lacked the excitement and optimism that usually comes at that point. It made me realise, that whilst the violent incidents are what moat of us consider horrific, the impact of the daily control by abusers and the constant stripping of self worth seemed far more devastating in the long run. I couldn’t understand it, and was living a very constrained life, bit like being a carer for someone with a disability. Was too much for me, much as I felt for her.
I can’t understand who would want to live in a dv relationship on either side, but maybe I’m just lucky.

Must have been shocking, I hope you went home and had a unni outdoor wood fired pizza experience to sooth your nerves.

I could hug eddie11, best post I’ve read in yonks 😆

I like to think I can understand this girl to an extent that nobody ever has done.

Whether this turns out to be true or not, it sounds like you are happy to accept a role akin to that of a carer, and could accept that it will need to be you responding to her needs, in which case you could well establish what you both want from the relationship and your roles within it. You would essentially be establishing your relationship on these terms, rather than being 2 equals whose relationship dynamics are changed by having to take on different roles.

I am totally biased by my own experience, and things could be totally different for you guys, but you have got out once and this would have been for a reason. And whilst you may now understand why your partner acts as they will, it won’t stop it being rubbish again. It will just be harder to justify that it’s rubbish, and harder to walk away from, because you knew what you were getting into.

Edit – I guess that might sound a bit hard, and I hope you realise I’m not trying pre-judge or lack empathy with either of you, but you asked for experience. I view my time in your position as a waste of 7 years of my life, 5 years in the relationship and 2 more doing fek all getting over it.
Just incase your ex was the lass you were referring to as a danger zone women in your previous postings, I have the scars to prove I lived with one, it’s very hard to explain in A&E that you just stabbed yourself in the lower back with a broken bottle of bud.

I would second the above from Mrs B, it does offer a good insight, and mind etc offer good information and support. I had a partner for about 5 years with a bpd, alongside some other issues. I won’t go into detail, as my experience was awful. But as someone that realised he did not want to be a carer or live his life by someone else’s issues, do not be too hard on yourself if you cannot hack it. Looking back no matter how selfish some would say I was for leaving, it was the best decision of my life bar none, I got my life back. However every situation is different and I hope you guys can make it work for you, good luck.

I’m voting in, mainly on the ground that the majority of people who tell me they are voting leave seem angry or thick, and sometimes a combination of the two. I don’t think either side has campaign a particularly compelling or believable argument. But looking at the pulsing viens on your average red faced leave advocate, it just makes me think if we do vote leave it’s all going to go a bit ‘lord of the flies’ here.

I’ve no idea as I’ve never owned a carbon frame.

Quite 😉

If you want to give me 4k for 4lbs of steel I’ll stroke a lot more than your ego 😉

Classic thread for trolls, the righteous and hand wringers. I can’t understand why folk get so angry about this. I race, so have bikes with caliper brakes and also have a lovely Colonago with disc’s that I tool around on when not racing, and obviously have a bang on trend grrrravel bike. Luckily, I look ‘pro’ on all my bikes.

I really like biking and really like booze, crazy I know. I have cycled in many places around the world and also had a drink in them too. I really like girls and music too. I don’t really care if anyone else likes these things or not, and have no wish to try and be smug or better than anyone about it either. I’m such a chameleon.

‘Do Marzocchi forks help?’

Clearly the fear of being ‘owned’ by said brand, stopped any immediate intervention. They probably couldn’t get the armed response unit there in time.

Yep, doing just this with a Shimano bb on one of my road bikes and its not killed me yet……but it’s not a Hope, and I haven’t checked anything since I fitted it, as it worked…..so there could be some slow lurking death in there just waiting to get me.

I love the moral one upmanship these threads generate. Luckily I’m still riding my 1995 GT which I no longer have to pedal along it just floats on my own smug sense of awesomeness. Sadly though, I have an embarrassment of road bikes that attempt to gloss over how shallow and empty my life is. It’s not a bad article, and I know people require folk with the prefix of ‘Uncle’ to impart their wisdom on others to give them an opinion or more hopefully get them considering a range of opinions. But transferring this to just considering oneself more betterer than others seems a bit of a waste.

5’9 and a half and race around 61/62kg, and it feels a struggle to keep this up during the season despite feeling like I’m constantly eating. I feel fatigue after big days and efforts, but mentally don’t ever feel lethargic or tired, in fact I have have to enforce some down time to recover before bigger events. Winter weight is about 63/64kg and during the dark months I embrace trash food and booze, but this drops as soon as spring kicks in. I don’t do any other sport, apart from the odd bit of pilyoga, and that’s only because my saucy neighbour runs the class. To be honest, I would do a 45 minute class of sticking forks in my knackers if she was running it. The yoga type stuff always seems to encourage a most satisfying bowel movement after the class. Last week my post class stool was so immense I had to have a little lie down and a snooze after it.

The forme out with tiagra, makes a great value package at the price. Orange looks nicer, but you would be speccing down to sora…..but Orange fan’s aren’t usually that bothered about value.

I wouldn’t give two hoots if dog’s became extinct tomorrow, they generally don’t engender any feeling in me at all. In fairness it’s generally irresponsible owners I dislike, and owners who think you should like their dogs.

If a dog owner is considerate about taking one to a trail centre fair dues, you can have at it for me, they have the dogs welfare and that of themselves and other riders to consider. But this is no different to us all, it’s sad that showing some consideration for others seems to exercise some on here so much.

Fixed gear track bike? Do rollers have any resistance?

Sorry to offend I didn’t think the comment would be taken as anything other than a bizarre comment made by a random internet stranger. You didn’t have a lawn or fence I could comment on. However, I am aware of the saying and did state ‘I like the colour of the bike’, but your hand did turn my stomach a bit. It doesn’t seem as bad now, so perhaps it was a bit early and I was feeling a little delicate. I didn’t realise you were also so delicate, so my apologise, and I hope you enjoy the bike.

I like the colour of the bike, but for some reason your hand repulses me 😯

Late 30’s, no wife or kids, gave up my nursing career a couple of years ago as I acquired enough interests in property and other ventures not to need to. I didn’t have things mapped out this way, but I’m enjoying it. I’m not creative, artistic, political or generally driven in any particular direction; so really just consider my life is just pottering about. I spend more time riding than any formal working activities most weeks. I have some fun as a partner in a micro brewery that’s going pretty well. I’m an active uncle to some cracking niece’s, which takes up more time since my brother was widowed. But outside of this, I just tend to combine my love of all things social with female company, and this fills quite a chunk of time. I’m sure at some point things will settle into a more normal pattern, but I’m good for now.

Everyday, anything else is getting into scutter territory.

Always advise where one intends to finish. It can avoid confusion and surprise in a range of different scenario’s.

Nice, other than the dinner plate cassette, but looks fun.

I can’t race at less than my max, and historically have hindered my recovery previously by pushing to hard before I was fit to. I’d go do a ride that may aid your recovery and get your system going a bit, racing but ‘not’ racing, is shite anyway.

Take it to the MAX!!! 8)

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It has given a few Specialized-haterz a new stick blah blah blah blah

😆 Excellent blowharding!! Chapeau.

Apparently not.

It’s better to take perspective lessons from people getting angry about stuff other people are getting angry about…..

There’s many dick moves to be incensed about so why this one?

Perhaps it’s because it’s bike related and that makes it a subject close to some cyclists hearts? Perhaps some folk just don’t extend their view to wider stuff or perhaps some people can give a toss about more than one issue at once? Perhaps as it’s quite a small area of life they think their input may make a difference? To simply ignore one dick move just because there are many other dick moves seems pretty pathetic. Akin to saying ‘ah fek, it’s only like i’ve punched one girlfriend, there are plenty of dicks that have punched all their girlfriends, i’m a real catch!’.

Surly Crosscheck, just a piece of shite.