My Nan's in a care home, and one of the other old girls and her have become good friends. Both are pretty confused and their communication is pretty garbled, but in their own way they offer each other a lot of comfort. We role up twice a week and over recent months we had stopped taking my Nan out for lunch and the like as they were both getting upset when seperated. Staff take them out to the pub for lunch etc, and despite being confused neither are any fuss when out, and neither require any personal care support when out. So I had the idea that we could take them both out for lunch, as both enjoy being out and about together, and we were quite happy to pay for my Nan's mate (she has no family so only has just over £20 a week for bits and bob's). But the home won't let this happen for H&S, as they can't risk assess it, police checks, no family to check with etc etc. It's a shame, but I don't really blame the home, must admit I agree whole heartedly with jon1973.