My old fella walked out on us when I was 11, and I didn't hear from him again till I was 29, no contact at all. Then he only contacted as he had cancer, and had been advised if he had kids there was a chance in would be passed down so contacted to let me know I should get checked. Despite the shite he put my old girl through and his absence, I never really thought about him and figured I was over any anger I felt at him. So after his intial contact he contacted a few times after to see how my checks went, and did ask if I wanted a pint. Turns out he had been only streets away from me with a new famil for a few years, so did meet up, as I figured I'd got nothing to lose. Since then I've seen him once or twice a year, and will ring/ email. I made it clear to him that I no longer really considered him to be my dad, as my step dad had filled this role, but I was interested in knowing what he had been doing with himself. It's been an interesting experience as there are bits of myself I see in him, both physically and in personality. It did bring a few feelings up I thought I had got over, but nothing I could say really upset me. Overall I glad I'm in touch with him, and I've learnt a bit more about myself.