I married quite young, and ended up divorced by the time I was 26, and I can’t say it was a great time as my ex had severe mental health problems and…well I was glad when I got out. I spent the following few years avoiding relationships, and just getting my head round what had happened and I guess finding out who I was again. I’m 35 now and have been pretty much single since, I’ve had relationships but nothing really lasting more than 3 or 4 months. I’m neither really looking for a long term relationship nor adverse if the right person popped along.
I think like most things in life there are pro’s and con’s to living a single life although some people clearly can’t understand that I’m actually happy with mu situation, but if I was mean I could say this is more a reflection of their situation. I’m not too ugly, and have an underactive ‘shame gland’, so I don’t find getting into relationships hard, and getting sex has never really proved difficult. But there are times I do miss the long term companionship, and you do have to be prepared that certain times of year are set up for singles.
I’m lucky that I only generally have to work a 4 day week, and I have plenty of time for biking, hobbies and the like. I do have a general don’t say no to anything policy, as I just don’t have enough hobbies to fill all the time. I like my life, it’s alright.