It’s too much information and takes some of the fun out of life. I don’t want to know everyone who will be at the party. I’m more likely to go “Oh, he’s a bit of a dick, it’s going to be a bad party” instead of just turning up and seeing what happens.
When I see someone who I haven’t seen in ages but aren’t friends with them enough to meet up, I want to be surprised. I don’t want to know ahead that they’re coming to the city. I just prefer the surprise, it makes life a little bit better.
I don’t want to passively know what everyone has been up to. I want to ask them and have a conversation about it. Even then, too many conversations go:
“I went to Spain”
-“Yeah, I saw on Facebook.”
“They had a lovely donkey in the garden”
-“Yeah, you took a photo and put it on Facebook”
That’s boring. You’re just talking about Facebook.
I don’t want that potential new friend to satisfy their curiosity about me by looking at my Facebook page and never talking to me again, instead of inviting me out and getting to know me. And these days, even if they do invite me out, instead of a personal invitation to an event, I get an invite along with 326 other friends / childhood friends / promoters / donkeys / their mum. I call this the ‘gathering vs party facebook pitfall’ – it’s not cool turning up with ‘da hoes’ to a Star Wars viewing.