what we ended up doing was letting them come into bed with us a while, far from ideal and can cause problems in its own, i.e. you need to weanthem back to their own bed.

Buy them a single bed and if they wake get into their bed until they or you fall asleep, again not ideal but it means you are not up for an hour through the night but it does re-establish the sleeping pattern.

Are you letting her nap through the day or in the evening, if so it might be time to stop that. also perhaps she is going to bed to early?

The other trick is a warm milky drink before bed can settle them down a bit better. And the same if they wake up – bit of a pain and can “reward” them for waking.

i wouldnt bother with the stick or carrot approach it didnt help us at all when it came to getting them to sleep.

i’m sure there is another method which I cant remember which effectively just lets them bawl their eyes out until they go back to sleep – we didnt do that….