My divorce came through on 1st October, we’d agreed everything ourselves before I instructed my solicitor. I was given a rough guide of about £2k to get it done.
I pay the going rate for my two kids (I actually over pay) and get to see them at the weekends, staying over one night.
We agreed to sell our house and to use the £15k profit against the £20k debt and I would take on the remaining debt.
All was going well until she decided to get a solicitor, one of those £300 to defend a divorce lawyer. All she did was interfere with the house sale, didn’t return phone calls/emails/letters. Stated that her client hasn’t agreed to pay the debt and various other crap. The only good thing she did was insist on the Finances being settled by Court Order. So everything we’d agreed upon was written up and given to the courts who rubber stamped it. That document states that neither of us is going after the others money/inheritance etc. My only gripe is it cost me and extra £2.5k in letters/emails/phone calls to her solicitor.
My advice would be:
a) One of you get a solicitor. Get the reason’s for the divorce written up, discuss this with the other half as your solicitor’s job is to give the judge a good enough reason to separate you. My Ex didn’t like what was written about her, which is why she went out and got her own solicitor.
b) Get the court order for the finances drawn up, that should stop anything happening in the future. For example my Father died 22 days after the divorce came through, She’s not entitled to anything.
c) The solicitor will include your current parenting arrangements and child support payments. The divorce court doesn’t do anything about this, but it does show that you have something in place in case it falls apart later on down the line.
And the best piece of advice, Don’t speak to your solicitor unless you have to – It costs a lot of money to chat.
My solicitor did advise me to sell the house before starting the divorce, so that IF my ex got a solicitor they wouldn’t have an eye on the £15k and look for ways to generate fees. Not following that advice cost me £2.5k. However, if I’d followed it I’d still be in the middle of a divorce and looking at handing over half my inheritance.