I’ve not read the last 7 pages or so so I could be repeating what others have said..
When mini RRR was born (10 months ago), I felt very confused as did the wife. We both felt a strong protective instinct for the sproglet in that we obviously would do anything to prevent any harm coming to him. However, we didn’t feel any “love” in the normal sense. I don’t see it as surprising – this thing is thrust upon you and turns your world upside down, has no idea who you are and in turn you have no idea who they are!
All I can say is that no, it’s not unusual to feel like that and I’m sure you will feel better about things. We found the first 4 months or so the worst but after this started to get our evenings backs, sometime for each other , time for er physical relations etc etc.
10 months after mini RRR was born and the little man melts me when “waving” goodbye in the mornings and welcoming me with a repeated excited ‘dada’ in the evenings!
It does get better – it’s the hardest but the best thing you’ll do