My relationship with my older brother is the same, for all my family. Sick of waiting him to visit, phone, respond etc. Finally decided that if I wanted a relationship with him I’d have to do the legwork. I do and we do and it’s great, but if I stopped being in his minds eye it would fall back again, I guess some folk are just like that. Don’t think it’s a bloke thing, I’m a bloke my relationship with my sister is 50:50.