OP, hope you don’t think these comments are out of order.
You’ve posted a lot over the past few years about how you can find and stick to a plan – it’s there again in your post starting this thread. But as you hint at in that post, your life is not really at a point where you can make a plan and guarantee to stick to it. When I was at a similar stage in life, my work was completely unpredictable, so I couldn’t commit to any weekday activities, because I simply didn’t know if I was going to be around, and even if I was at home I was likely to have to take a child somewhere or collect a child from somewhere. So forget the planning. Relax. Forget the targets but be better at grabbing the opportunities. Be less prescriptive about what you want to do. Don’t say ‘I haven’t got time for that 40 mile ride I wanted to do’, instead say ‘I’ve got 90 minutes, I can do 15 miles and get showered ready for the next thing’. If you can find one spot a week that you can keep sacrosanct then great, go for it – I used to get out for 2 hours every Sunday at 08:00 with my riding buddy for a muddy bridleway ride, and anything else was a bonus.
And I know we live in the same town, so I’m still here if you fancy a road/gravel/mtb ride any time.