OMG that's where I've been going wrong all this time 🙂
Danes tend to socialise at home as there is not much of a pub culture here and I suspect it is partly the result of me being over 30 with kids. However, the affect is that you can get to know people to some degree, through the good social type work events and things that they like to have here (organised fun is a huge industry) but to get to be real friends you need to be invited into their homes. This is a bigger step than agreeing to meet at the pub or whatever.
BTW, I met Mrs OJ whilst we were both living in France. She is more negative about Denmark than I am in many instances…
It's not a bad place to live at all, safe and secure, just a little dull