We are in the fortunate position where OH (teacher) was able to drop to a 0.5 contract on birth of number 1, that was 6 years ago and number 2 is now 2.
We are super fortunate in having grandparents nearby who do one day each, and then one day at nursery. It’s been extremely balanced – kids both know and love their grannies, some quality time with mum and some nursery experience.
Even one day a week at nursery is over £260 a month here, and we still have the problems of ill children and covering etc, despite the huge advantages mentioned above. We are desperately lucky and don’t forget it.
What worries me more is the behaviour I see in the workplace, which surely impacts people trying to maintain their family. One of my team is a full time working single mum (like my mum was), the lack of understanding and flexibility she’s experienced is truly appalling. Another is a full time working mum, and her partner works full time. The negative conscious/unconscious bias that seems to have existed about her dual role (whether that’s who should take time to look after the kids or the lack of flexibility and understanding to manage a balance) is also appalling.