KT, sounds like you have some serious issues.
Inferiority complex?
After many years Mrs M now earns more than me, but we’re partners so why should it matter? She’s better at me than some things, I’m better than her at others. So long as we make each other happy, that’s fine.
We have one friend, Mrs M’s best mate from university, who probably earns a 7-figure income. Her man has been the main carer for kids & home, & it works just fine. If you feel that you have to be wealthier, wonder why…