I am mindful that I need to try to keep the peace, esp as our daughter is in the house too. Plus I have never said anything hurtful to her and I would like to take that one thing away from all this, no matter how much she throws at me.
We have tried to keep the lawyers away, we have a mutual friend who is a retired family solicitor who has agreed to look at a financial agreement and prep it for a 3rd party to sign. So far its only cost me £550 for the divorce paperwork via the government website.
I am more mindful of trying to hold on to my pension which suits me better rather than the house equity.
Cheers for the replys guys, much appreciated.